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Hello, I just found out I was bi and I don't know how to tell anyone because I am afraid of
Being made fun of. I don't know what to do because there were 2 gay guys in my grade
And One of them got made fun of all the time, and this other dude doesn't get made fun of
At all. So what should I do??
Just wait till your ready to tell, you don't need to rush it, it you are having difficulties saying it out loud than you probably aren't ready for people to know
If you are not secure in who you are yet then I wouldn't say anything yet. Find out who you are and what you want out of life then go from there.
This is Bi-Sexual_bob I am ready it is just that I don't want every one to make fun of me. I really want everyone to know, especially this guy I like, he' s bi too.Quote:
Originally Posted by starfirefly
If there is someone you like, and they're bi as well... just go for it. Don't miss out on a great opportunity and don't stress about what other's have to make. It takes a person who's insecure with themselves to make fun of another person. GO FOR IT! :)
In this day and age. If pple can't accept you for who you are inside, regardless if your bi, gay, lesbian, hetero... then they are not someone you'd want to know.
Do you want to be respected by others?
Do you want to be the person whom you are 'inside' of yourself?
If other pple can't or have problems accepting you for whom you are inside yourself, then its YOU who doesn't want those pple as your friend.
And those pple are not worthy of calling you their friend.
I say go for it! You shouldn't care what others say or do. Ignore them. Be who you are and be proud of it, as simple as that.
Quote:
Originally Posted by starfirefly
Just wait till your ready to tell, you don't need to rush it, it you are having difficulties saying it out loud than you probably aren't ready for people to know
Hi, Bi-sexual_Bob!Quote:
Originally Posted by Bi-sexual_Bob
How old are you, and why do you feel this need to tell everyone about your sexual orientation, please? It's unusual that someone would want to do that. It's not really necessary to do that in most situations when interacting with any number of people. You're not weird, but you are unique as a person and, you're not alone... What other things are there about you that you like? It would also be helpful to know about that.
If you are interested in someone, then you strike up conversations with them, get to know them, look for ways to do things with them and see how things go from there.
Water seeks its own level. It's something that's basic to physics. It's the same way with people. People will tend to gravitate toward those who are like themselves. Are you having trouble finding those that are like yourself in any number of ways?
I would still like to know how old you are.
Thanks!
Honestly, I was in high school about 3 years ago, I'm 21. So I know where you are coming from. I knew gay guys, and yes, they were singled out and talked about a lot behind their backs, sometimes even made fun of in person.
It's a matter of weighing out the pros and cons of your pride. Do you prefer to just keep it quiet, and continue living without any judgements or harassment, or do you come out for the sake of being yourself and then put up with potential harassment. The choice is yours, really. There's nothing wrong with not telling anyone, and there's nothing wrong with being open about it either.
In my opinion, what business is it to other people what your sexual preference is? Unless you want everyone to know, your preference is no one else's business but yours.
If you want to be out subtly try badges, wristbands and other gay and bi symbols. If you pick the obscure ones only people who are also gay/have gay friends will know. That way you can find like minded people without shouting it from the rooftops. A purple triangle is pretty subtle, maybe get one on a button badge.
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, & Transgender Symbols
LGBT symbols - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Over the Rainbow Shop Gay Pride Buttons
I think it sounds like your real goal is to let this particular guy you're interested in know you're available (and interested) more than anything else. If you were to subtly flirt with this person, you might get your message across. Once that happens, believe me, people talk... the others will know soon enough. Now, if you feel like you want more control about what they're talking about, you can tell the people you trust most first.
In any case, I understand you don't want to be teased about your sexuality. No one should ever be subject to something like that. However, the fact is that it's probably going to happen at some point. It's not right, but it will probably happen. So be prepared for that moment. Just know that it happens, and let it go. Sometimes the younger you are, the harder it can be.
One of my best friends, a kid I grew up with, said it to me outright, and although I was surprised because of his age (he was just under 15 at the time), I really, really respect that he did that. He trusted me, and it was something I should have known as his friend. We were on an airplane waiting to take off on a month long trip to france together. Then out it came! And we had an incredible time. I love him to death.
Just don't do what tila tequila did. :) you don't need to have a reality show before the truth comes out.
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