Hi.
I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months now. I care for him a lot, we seem like a perfect match. All though we haven't said the "I Love You's" yet, we still care for each other a lot, at least I do for him. He says he care but doesn't show it. He what hold my hand in public, he doesn't kiss me when he first walks into my house, doesn't open any doors for me, has never giving me a nice compliment, nor can he answer why he likes me. When I tell him I want some "us" time, he says that we are always together. He would rather watch sports than to just hangout with me and go to dinner or something. What should I do? I have tried to fix it but it only seems like I'm nagging him and nothing is changing!


Always,
Summer

Summer, it doesn't sound as if he is putting any effort into the relationship... maybe you should end the relationship. It takes two to keep one going.

I would have to agree, personally I never acted like that at beginning of relationship much less 4 months into one. You need to look out for yourself and what makes you feel good about yourself, if just being there for him and that makes you happy?

If not, look for something that does. You will feel better about yourself and more confident in the relationship without asking yourself, does he care.

Summer, this guy doesn't need fixing, and nothing's going to change. You've been dating long enough that he's now acting "normal"... normal for him, that is.

Now that you see who he really is, be respectful. It's not your job to change him to please or meet your needs. Either he does it, or he doesn't. You HAVE already brought this up, and it made no difference, right?

The only thing wrong here is you're not pursuing this dating process fairly. When you spot the reasons you and your "guy of the moment" aren't compatible, you're supposed to pay attention.

You've pointed it out, he's pointed out that you're wrong (which is also not true.) Sounds like this is already over and neither one of you have even realized it yet.

Don't waste too much more time.