My boyfriend broke up with me a little over a year ago. Since then, I've had several bfs, but there's still something tying me to the first one. When he broke up with me, I totally screwed up. I made every mistake possible, trying to win him back, and then I finally realized I had to try to move on and started dating again. Several months later, I was back wanting the first guy. I emailed him to apologize for acting crazy and offered his stuff back, which I returned the next month, when I got back to school. He told me not to apologize or regret the past. Here I am again, wanting something with him. However, I haven't spoken to him since that last email in January, where he seemed polite enough to me and responded to what I said. I emailed him for the first time since today, just casually asking how he was doing and classes and such. I don't know if he's going to respond or not. I would like to ask for advice on how to get him noticing me again and what steps to take next, as to contacting him and such. My thoughts were to give him a few days and maybe send an email with something I've seen that might interest him. Any thoughts?

Just tell him how u feel! Start by saying u miss him. If he does not know what to say then he has a GF. If u want something u got to take it.

Hi, lilpad. I feel for you. I am going to be harsh though. There is nothing you can do to bring him back. He broke up with you. It's been a year, and you should have realised by now you can live without him.
The truth about love is, albeit sounds trivial, you can't possess your loved ones. Sometimes you have to let them go to do what they want. Keep your feelings for him for yourself, it will make you stronger and richer.
In the meantime, I'd suggest focusing on yourself, your personal growth, school, gym, hobbies... Have you dreamt of anything? Now is the time to take a step in the direction of your dream.

We are here to support and comfort you.

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Originally Posted by lilpadfoot16

When he broke up with me, I totally screwed up. I made every mistake possible, trying to win him back...

Any thoughts??

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Well, it appears you were wrong. You didn't make every possible mistake. But it looks like you're on track to go back and finish the job. :-)

He broke up with you. There's nothing to win back here except you're life. As long as you keep reigniting heat on this burner he turned off long ago, you will keep burning yourself.

Note... burning yourself.

The memories will never go away. But, he already has. When are you going to take control of your life back and stop letting this imaginary--fantasy-man jerk you around? He's not real, and the real version of him is gone. He really is.

Really.