My fiancé passes away almost two months agoin a car accident , and I don't want to keep living or talking to anybody about how I really feel. I have two children that he raised and they talk about him everyday. The police say the case is still open and they won't return any bodies phone calls, I don't know where else to go to get answers what should I do?

You got to take it one day at a time. The fact that the police are involved leads me to believe that you feel there isn't closure here. You need to come to terms with what happened, and move forward from there. Right now you're dwelling on the accident. You have to take his life, cherish the memory, and take it day by day in moving forward.

Yes, start living life again, you said accident but then you said police are still investigating.

Start some activity, help the children honor their father and more

I am sorry for your loss, but you need to be strong for the children. Do not nag the police, but check with them periodically to see if there are any updates on the case.

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Originally Posted by Revival

you gotta take it one day at a time. the fact that the police are involved leads me to believe that you feel there isn't closure here. you need to come to terms with what happened, and move forward from there. right now you're dwelling on the accident. you have to take his life, cherish the memory, and take it day by day in moving forward.

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I agree, but there is no closer yet because they do not know who was not at fault the car who hit my fiancé was able to walk away from the scene and did not even get a alcohol test, any test for that matter. There at home moving on with there life when my children and I have lost something so important to us. And when you get no answers from anybody its hard to move on.

You have to realize now though that you may not get answers. Death is one of those things that is never wanted, but always possible and in the end inevitable. Take this time to educate your kids about what has happened, and nurture them in how to deal with. Make them your focus, I'm sure your fiancé would want what's best for you and them first and foremost. They are forever his legacy, so embrace the fact that you still have to amazing pieces of him that will forever be a part of you, and take into account that they will keep his spirit alive.

I think there are two issues here. The first- that there is no closure. The fact is that you need to think that whether the person responsible for this is caught or not, it won't change the fact that your fiancé passed away. Whoever this person is has to live with this for the rest of their lives and even if they don't have a guilty conscience one day they will face death too and that is a fact. Also, Im sure your fiancé wouldn't want you to dwell on this as he would probably want to see you and the kids live happily.

This brings us on to the second issue - you can't move on. You need to create a life that is positive, if not for yourself, than at least for your kids - sounds like your fiancé did a fantastic job as a father so you must continue for his sake. There is nothing wrong with grieving or talking about it - time is a great healer, but meanwhile do something positive for him, create a charity, plant a tree in his name.

You and the children need to get to a grief counselor and pronto.