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  • Oct 15, 2008, 02:31 PM
    stephanie1233
    Not getting turned on
    I'm 18 and have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years now. I don't know if its from my birth control or if that is just an excuse but I feel like I'm not feeling much when we have sex. I've never been able to have an orgasm while he ejaculates every time. I love him so much but I'm just scared if I'm not able to get turned on very often that there is something wrong with me or us is there a way to fix it because when we are together everything else is fine I don't want this to make a problem with us?
  • Oct 15, 2008, 02:35 PM
    stephanie1233

    Also this is the only person I have ever had sex with
  • Oct 15, 2008, 02:40 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    How much foreplay do you all have, have you showed him where and how you get turned on. Does he take time to let you have a orgasm before he even gets started real good.
    Or/ and after he is done help you reach yours ?
  • Oct 15, 2008, 02:40 PM
    divorcee
    I might suggest foreplay, as that is just the primer. If he is not into that then that is a problem. Also, new positions are wonderous, as long as you are both adventurous
  • Oct 15, 2008, 02:56 PM
    stephanie1233

    Not a lot of foreplay he has 5 other brothers so someone is always home so its already hard to get into or to even have time before someone might come around and no he kind of just gets started but when he plays with my clitoris it gets to a point where I just make him stop because it gets to intense. Should that be where I let him keep going?
  • Oct 15, 2008, 03:00 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Ok, do you not know how to please yourself ? You need to find out what you like so you can show him.
    But if you are not in a place to do it, then you should not be doing it at his parents house with brothers home.
  • Oct 15, 2008, 03:12 PM
    Xrayman

    Oh brother.

    So many things are just nt right, here.

    Firstly, It sounds like you don't even know what turns you on sexually-i.e. do you know how to masturbate? Does he know, how you masturbate?

    Secondly too many distractions i.e. Brothers hanging around?? What the?
    Go somewhere PRIVATE!

    Lastly, it is unlikely that you will climax from penetration alone-there are less nerve endings on the vagina than the clitoris or penis, this may change when you are more comfortable though.
  • Oct 15, 2008, 03:29 PM
    johnster2008
    On a real note, You need to get time alone! And have a privite place! Lock some doors! Or even try to go some where like a motel!Try new things<maybe a little role play! You need to have a chance to unwind a live! Experience gets better!
  • Oct 15, 2008, 04:08 PM
    stephanie1233

    Thanks!

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