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  • Oct 14, 2008, 07:13 PM
    jcapone2524
    Wife share
    I want my wife to another man in front of me
  • Oct 14, 2008, 07:15 PM
    J_9
    And your question is?
  • Oct 14, 2008, 07:22 PM
    jcapone2524

    I want my wife to have sex with another man in front of me
  • Oct 14, 2008, 07:23 PM
    J_9
    Okay, so do you have a question?
  • Oct 14, 2008, 07:24 PM
    jcapone2524

    Is that wrong
  • Oct 14, 2008, 07:26 PM
    J_9
    I guess it's all in whose opinion you ask. In my opinion, yes it is wrong as my husband and I took marriage vows. It would be against my religion and my beliefs.
  • Oct 14, 2008, 08:27 PM
    Theprincess36

    First of all, please tell me WHY you want your wife to have sex with another man, and why is it important that it is in FRONT of you?
  • Oct 14, 2008, 09:23 PM
    spyderglass

    I don't think it's wrong as long as all parties are willing. You aren't the first man to harbor such fantasies.
  • Oct 14, 2008, 10:02 PM
    hannah_nicole
    So tell her.. Its not for me but each to their own.
  • Oct 15, 2008, 06:44 PM
    jimbeam22

    Go for it!! I did! Remember you can't undo it , think about both of you and what it will do to your live
  • Oct 16, 2008, 01:59 AM
    mishelly3

    YA I would say bad idea someone is going to very un happy when its all said and done with.
    What's wrong with having sex with your wife alone spuce it up have fun but when you bring some one else to your bed your asking for trouble
  • Oct 16, 2008, 10:28 AM
    smoothy

    Some fantasies are best left a fantasy. Few live up to be what your imagination made them up to be.
  • Oct 21, 2008, 05:26 PM
    mazak
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by smoothy View Post
    Some fantasies are best left a fantasy. Few live up to be what your imagination made them up to be.



    Agreed.
  • Oct 21, 2008, 09:31 PM
    cadillac59
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jcapone2524 View Post
    i want my wife to another man in front of me

    Are you possibly gay?
  • Oct 22, 2008, 09:28 AM
    linnealand

    As smoothy suggested, some things are better left as fantasy.

    Remember, you're not talking about someone you've just been sleeping with. This is your wife, which means that you don't want to risk adding extra and very serious issues into a permanent relationship that is ultimately based on a whole lot more than just sex.

    While there are couples who partake in this kind of play, my opinion is that this could easily take both of you into dangerous terrain.

    Have you talked about it with your wife? If so, what has she said? If not, what do you think she might think about it?

    In my opinion, you can't resolve problems in a relationship, like sexual boredom, by bringing someone else into it (other than a therapist, of course).

    While it might be fun, have you considered all of the problems that could arise from the situation? What happens if she really, really enjoys the sex with this other man... even more than she seems to enjoy sex with you? Or if she does it just to satisfy your fantasy and then feels ashamed about it later? Would it be with someone you know, or a total stranger? If it's someone you know, could you wind up with relationship complications or problems with your friendship? If it's someone you don't know, how could you be sure it would be safe? Jealousy, regret, future reliance on others because sex without them no longer seems exciting enough... there are so many things that could come up that might surpass your initial predictions.

    Is it possible for a married couple to engage in this kind of play without any negative consequences? Theoretically, sure. It really depends on the people involved. But without knowing all of the factors involved, my gut tells me that it's not necessarily the best move a married couple can make.
  • Oct 22, 2008, 04:10 PM
    Bonnie46

    Ha! Yes. Some things ARE better left to the imagination. I don't think it will be as fantastic or as comfortable as you think it will be. What does your wife say or think?
  • Oct 22, 2008, 04:27 PM
    excon
    Hello j:

    My number is 555-1345.

    excon
  • Oct 22, 2008, 09:21 PM
    cadillac59

    For some reason I cannot pull up the second page to this thread so I thought I'd try posting another answer. I don't know what the problem is.
  • Oct 24, 2008, 03:59 PM
    Alty

    Wow, just found this.

    How does your wife feel about this? Is she willing? Is this both of your fantasies or just yours?

    It's never a good idea to bring another "partner" into a marriage unless everyone is on board. Once it's done it can't be taken back.

    Is it wrong? To some it is, to others it isn't, it all depends on who you ask.

    I wouldn't be willing to share my husband with another women, and I wouldn't expect him to allow another man into our bedroom, but some couples are okay with this. To each their own.

    If your wife isn't on board with this, then it will have to remain a fantasy.

    Good luck.
  • Oct 24, 2008, 04:35 PM
    450donn

    I guess you forgot your marriage vows huh?
    Of course it is wrong. It is also perverted in most every sense of the word. This is totally degrading and immoral. But there are a lot of people who will tell you to go for it. So I guess it is up to you and your moral values as to what you choose to do.

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