okay I can take the truth so lay it on me! I have been seeing this guy for about 4 months well we only hang out when we are drinking or at the bars. My first problem is how that is the only time we ever hang out. Why can't he ask me to hang out during normal hours doing normal things?? I asked him this before when I was drunk (oops) and he said that he likes me just doesn't want a girlfriend. He dated someone for 3 years and wants his chance to be single.. (but that waas 2 years ago that they broke up- get over itttt) so I was like OK that's fine I just wanted to know where I stand. So now it really bugs me because I actually really like this guy and I want to say no to when we stay with each other because I want him to respect me and miss me, but I am always drunk so I give in. but the thing is when we text during the day sometimes, he will say things like how he wants to go running on this trail together, and how when I ran into him randomly for a week he texted and said "i love seeing u everyday =)" so why can't he PLAN to see me? Why does it have to be random?. I really don't think he's using me because of the way he acts around me (always wants to hold my hands at the bar and always acts jealous saying "u stayed with a guy last night didnt you?!?!") and I'm like why does he act like he cares?. I don't know what to do have I ruined all chances of ever dating this guy in the future? I am going to start saying no to hanigng out at night cuase I'm just getting hurt the next day when he leaves and I wonder when I will see him next. =/ sorry so long!