How come he can't understand?
Maybe it's just me, but right now I feel under appreciated by my husband. I have made all the calls and done all the footwork for just about everything regarding the house that we just bought on September 30th. I have been the one that's called to make sure we have water, electricity, gas, garbage pickup, and cable (making sure that I or someone else was at the house when people came to read the meters). I have been the one doing the laundry, doing most of the dishes, running to the store and running other errands and on top of watching an 11 year old dog and a brand new puppy to make sure they don't eat each other's food, go potty in the house, or fight because the 11 year old dog is constantly growling at the puppy, even if she only walks by him. So I guess you could say I'm under a lot of stress. We both work full- time but I feel like when he's home he doesn't see all the things that need to be done. I do appreciate when he washes his cereal bowl or at least rinses out his milk glass once in a while but he makes me feel like crap if I ask him for help. I love him to death and I know he loves me too but I don't know how to get him on the same page as me as far as responsibilities go. I try talking to him and he says "you make it sound like I don't do anything." well half the time I want to tell him it's because you don't. But then he would bring up the fact that he cleaned his cereal bowl.
And get this, this morning he called me to ask about the cable service. I asked him why he doesn't call the cable company himself and ask because I'm tired of making phone calls. I told him I already got the cable service set up "for you." The he goes off on a tangent asking why I always say I do things for him when in reality I do things for us. I can kind of see what he's saying but at the same time, I didn't get the internet and TV for me so much. I hardly ever watch TV whereas he can become glued to the screen and he won't get off the internet for hours. My computer isn't even connected to the internet. I can get on at work if I need to. Then he'll say something like "why do you say you're making dinner for me when you're really making dinner for us?" I don't know why he doesn't understand that I make what he wants, I make dinner, buy groceries, with him in mind. I don't think of myself when I do things like that. I just think what would make him happy. I'm not a very selfish person. I always try put those around me first. What I can't understand is why he doesn't appreciate all the things I do, or even acknowledge them for that matter. I just want for him, if he's not going to help out, to say, "thank you honey."
I guess I just needed to vent. Thank you to anyone who reads this...