Me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 months and we just broke up because she said she could not deal with my drinking but the last time this happened she never said anything about this. And that she doesn't feel that she can't make me happy because she is doing everything to show me but I don't see that, she then says that she dosen't think this relationship will work and I then asked her to give it another thought to give us another chance to find what's missing in this relationship, she says that she will think about it this has been going on since last Tuesday and every time I contact her she answers the phone and she went to dinner with my parents this Saturday and she hugs me and kiss me and the next day she comes over tyo the house and she talking to my mother about future things they will do? What is going on?

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Originally Posted by robinsonjr

and that she dosent feel that she can't make me happy because she is doing everything to show me but i dont see that, she then says that she dosen't think this relationship will work

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Maybe she feels like you aren't putting a lot of effort into the relationship? Or she may do something really nice, but you don't realize, try and talk to her more about what is hurting her.


Also I know drinking can effect a relationship a lot! Not even boyfriend and girlfriend, any kind of relationship, try get help to prove to her you are trying and care.

Talk to her get her alone and be honest and just ask her point blank what's going on and how she feels about you. Iam concerned about your drinking. To quite drinking when you've done it for awhile consistently is pretty hard to do with out help.. Its nothing to mess with it truly changes the greaat person you are in to an no one like acccept maybe your friends and there probaably lying. So just be you don't drink girls really dig guys who can just be themselves with out using...

Take care ans be true to yourself

Well.. this is what I'm thinking
She loves you a lot.she wants to be with you
She just hopes/wishes/pleads that you stop drinking
Drinking does effect relationships.
Also it might not hurt to open up to her a little more.

precious12992

Trust me on this one... it's your drinking. Listen to precious abov e; she's got great advice... this girl cares about you but she's not in for the long haul with your drinking... Only you can say when you've had enough and have a water instead; only you can decide she's more important than that drink. She's torn... over you and what to do.
Don't make her choose; you choose... to control your drinking.

Stop drinking and solve that problem.