I have been dating a very nice woman for 2.5 years. She is 47, I am 50. She bought the house down the street from me as she was recently divorced. I have been in the dating scene for a dozen years and I knew that this may be to soon for her. We starting dating, and it has been a wonderful relationship for both of us. Everything about it was wonderful. Perhap a month or 2 ago I noticed she was pulling back ever so slightly.
Last week she was upset with her exhusband and stressing about her son's birthday party. She had stated that she wasn't looking for marriage and wanted to be independent. I am fine with that. Last week she was irritated and said that I should take care of things at my house and she needed to take care of things at her house. That's fine, great. Basically she means she needs space.

I am assuming the relationship is over. I have not called or talked to her in week. I will not chase her, I know you have to give people their space. She has not called me.

The thing that bugs me is. We got along so well. No arguments, no drama... great love. I love her family and friends. She liked my friends, I liked her friends. We did things with them... we built a very nice relationship. What a fabulus relationship... caring respectful... best sex ever, for 2.5 years. I guess she wants to be independent and date. Being a veteran of the dating scene, I know there is a lot of low lying fruit, some good, some bad. Our relationship was the top of the tree. I think as her need for independence grew, her love for me wained. IS SHE GONE FOREVER?

RGK

You never know what could happen. You two might get back together or your might not. At least you learned that you still can find a needle in hay sack from this experience. She needs her space and it's good that your giving it to her and not complicating things. Since you live on the same block, if you see her in passing you can be nice and have small talk because your going run into each other. In the meantime don't over think things and maybe she's unsure about what she want and need to sort it out.

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Originally Posted by rgk

IS SHE GONE FOREVER?

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No, not necessarily. For now, you relegate her back to the realm of "good friend" and treat her that way. Occasionally you call, sometimes you offer lunch, you're pleasant and non-aggressive emotionally... you know... friends.

Then, you watch. When/If she is ever interested in "more" than friends, she'll let you know. If not, well, you can keep your "friend down the street."