Well, much of the advice that is given, is to go out and do things and meet new people. I can completely understand how that definitely will make a difference in getting over a relationship, however, there isn't very much time for me to do so. I work much of the day time (1pm-10pm) and only have Sunday and Monday off. This makes it difficult to get out much in the evenings. On top of that, the people I work with are either older and married with kids, or are young and just married, and well, don't really do much except with their spouse's and other couples. I go to the gym and that does relieve some stress and build confidence, but the area that I live in, isn't really the greatest place to meet young single people, so there really aren't that many young people at the gym. It seems as though most of the people that grew up here, are still friends with people that they went to high school with and grew up with. I'm not really the kind to go and sit a bar alone, but I have, and sure you meet some people there, but I haven't really met people that want to become friends, if they even remember who you are the next day. Also, not having friday's and saturday's off, then number of people that are at the bar, are significantly less.My job is a rather essential job, therefore it is difficult to get time off on weekends as well. So, basically, I wind up just picking up all kinds of overtime at work, and spending most of all of my days there instead since there is little to do, but that is not really an effective way to get over someone, at least not for me now... it helps, but still there is a lot of time to think. Well, not to gripe, but just thought I would put this out there and see what people had to say, who may have been in similar situations, or even not. All input is welcome.

You have to find out what is important in your life

We are never stuck in one place. We normaly choice to be

So if you want to change. You can
Find a job in another town or other country and get out of your normal life.

Failing that go down to bars when you get a chance relax there.

I must admit bars are not really my thing either
Normaly if you are looking for love you never find it. It just creeps up on you

Best of luck

*Take a class at your county's community college or the local Y.
*Join a YWCA or youth coaching or counseling program like Big Brothers/Big Sisters.
*All those people/married couples have children/grandchildren/nieces/nephews/siblings your age.
*Check out what's going on at your public library. Programs are put together to attract patrons of various ages. At the library where I work, we run programs on manga and anime, videogaming, travel, book discussions, learn about your community such as "Meet the Vets". If you don't go to the programs as a guest, offer to help with refreshments, crowd control, projector setup and running, etc.
*Travel inexpensively by bus or train. The library will help you find inexpensive lodging and food sources at various destinations. (You do get vacation time, right?)
*Find online support groups and chat sites populated by young people your age. Be careful with personal information. I've made many new friends that way.

Yes, I do get vacation time, thankfully! Not too sure if I would survive if I didn't :) I like the idea of traveling inexpensively. I do drive to see friends a few hours away, and it doesn't cost too much, and it is a great thing to do when I can take two or a few days to go there. It's just the rest of the week that there is little to do. I had thought about the online sites and support groups, but was kind of wary about them, but I guess I can give them a try.

As far as the job change, I had thought about that, but the job I have is a good secure job, and at this point and time, it would be tough to let go. I think that if I didn't have the job, I would definitely move, as I grew up in the city life, and am now living in a smaller more country type setting, where many folks like to retire. Also, I was considering settling in this area, because if my ex and I had stayed together, it wasn't a bad location, but I guess I wasn't really planning on us not being together, so now my mind isn't sure what to think.

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Originally Posted by holeinheart21

I had thought about the online sites and support groups, but was kind of wary about them, but I guess I can give them a try.

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If you are careful, there are many community and Q&A sites that are fun to be on and where you meet interesting people, like on this one.