So my roommate's girlfriend is trying to hook me up with her friend who is on our college's vball team (hot) and she's quite the chicky. Now I'm an easy going person and I've always done good on the whole first date thing but this is my first time going with another couple on the first date...

So how does this work? I mean I personally think a first date shouldn't be with other people... so I'm just going to assume its not really our "first date." I'm thinking about treating it as just an introduction thing but not try to get that first kiss or w/e taking her back type .

The think I'm not sure about is how do I handle the whole group thing. Do I pay attention to my roomie and his girlfriend or just pay attention to her. I could talk to my roommate all night, but I don't want to seem like a . And I don't want to completely ignore my roomie and his girlfriend.

Now I do understand no matter what anyone says on here its going to pan out somehow and I'm sure it will be all good, I just want some tips on the whole double dating bull. Do I save the intimate stuff or the personal stories, or my likes/dislikes for a more private time? That kind of stuff!

Thanks

-Pez

iight I have gone on a lot of doubles before so consider this as a date spend about 85% of the time pating attention to the girl you with. The other 15% of the time attention with your buudy cause you don't want nothing ahpening between you. And whay ever you do don't go for that first kiss not on a double it just won't be the same trust me on that one. Another tip is try and listen to every thing that evry one sayd for if they ask for a comment on it from you u should need somehting to say cause if you don't they may think you are ignoring them that's all I can help you with bro

Shoot the sh!t, make sure there are group discussions, do some flirting, and at the end of the night, get your roomie and his girlfriend to effe off, and have some alone time with her. Simple simon.

Have fun, and enjoy the whole group thing. Include everyone in on the fun.

Okay so I went on it. I actually got to meet her before hand for about 1 hour so that was nice. I was in town and she sent me a text saying "what are you doing" and I said "driving around your town!" then she sent me one back saying "well since you're close would you like to get some food before the game?" (she's on the vball team)

Anyway I got to talk to her just me and her for about 1 hour and that went good. I was smiling the whole time like a dumbass and she kept asking what am I smiling at then she'd smile.

VBALL GAME HAPPENS

Okay after the vball game we go to get some quick food since its already 9:30pm. We sit next to each other and my roomie/and his girlfriend sit across from us. We all talk and I found it extremely hard to ask her any questions so I just commented on stuff we talked about privatly. We head back all singing free falling like a bunch of morons and we drop her off at her car. She gets out and gives me a "nice meeting you" and gets into her car. I got out and knocked on her window and said let me know if you'd like to hang out more tomorrow (which is today now) before I head out of town. She said maybe but she does have some homework to do.

That was the end of it.

I felt like this chick isn't the least bit interested but yet she sent me a text the other day saying "Aww ur sweet, thanks for talking :)" and stuff like that. But when I finally met her I didn't get that vibe?

So its my roomie, his girlfriend, and me in the car driving them back to their car and I said, "Did that go alright? She didn't seem the least bit interested." And the roomies girlfriend says she's not the flirty type.

With all that said, if we were to hang out today I was thinking drawing with some chalk or going for a walk, possibly both, would be a good idea.

Input on both what happened and what I'm thinking about doing would be great :).

Kk we aren't hanging out today. She's got practice, homework, and a chem exam tomorrow. So I sent her a text saying "Maybe another time." So she replied "yea that would work a lot better :-)"

How long till I ask her to hang out again.

Ask her when she'd like to be invited out! A week would probably be fine. Don't act desperate, but don't leave her wondering if he you are busy dating someone else.

Stop the "hanging out"... it's a lame date and nothing to look forward to. Pick something INTERESTING to do coming up in the next week or two and invite her to do THAT with you. Something that starts at a specific time and ENDs at a specific time so it's easy for a busy college girl to fit it in.

"There's a garage band concert in the Adams Hall next Tuesday night...I think it starts at 7:00pm. Sounds like fun, can you squeeze in a couple of hours to go with me?"

You get the idea.

Okay so, it didn't work out. I invited her out again and she made an "excuse" in my mind and I sent her a text saying, "would you like me to continue inviting you to hang out with me?" and she did the whole "you seem like a great guy" routine. She said her prob was she's not really looking for a relationship now and me being 3-4 years older (depending on the time of the year) wasn't so pleasing to her parents..

I told her I'm completely fine with it and I understand. I left it at that.

Now I'm getting text after text from her about how she'd still like to hang out and be friends and how she'd like to get to know me and she even said "i want to get to know each other better!."

I showed my friend this and he said I was too nice at the date?

So in the case that this is true. How do you treat your date? I mean, I love friends... but I want a girlfriend. And the fact that she wants to get to know me and all this jazz is kind of making me think that I might have a chance later down the road? (im not obviously counting on it).

Things I did on this date when we were alone: I let her talk, I listened to her, I replied, I answered questions, I smiled, I did everything I thought was a good idea to do.

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Now I'm getting txt after txt from her about how she'd still like to hang out and be friends and how she'd like to get to know me and she even said "i want to get to know each other better! "

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Gee whiz, stop worrying about future romance, and get to know each other better for crying out loud. There are no string attached here. Nor do you need any. Just don't let her be the only one you date. Its for fun, not a life commitment. Loosen up, and enjoy yourself.

Talaniman is right. If you are as desperate for a girlfriend as you sound here, it's no wonder she's hesitant.