I guess I should start with my girlfriend is 21 and a senior in college and I am 27. We have been dating for about six months. Then she came out of nowhere and said that she needs space she needs time to figure things out. We might be the only people to cuddle while we brake up. Of course as soon as it happened I went out and bought her a bracelet and that same night I aske dher to talk. I went over to her house and we cuddled and kissed for two hours her pretty much saying the same thing that she needs time to figure things out on her own and to grow up. She keeps telling me she's not ready for the future. I told her she does not need to be ready, that we can at our own pace. The next day she texted me once, and then called me at 2am when she got home from going out with her friends and told me that she just wanted to talk to me, we talked for like an hour and she was drunk but I said to her everyone keeps telling me that if I give you space you will come back to me, and she said "well as soon as i got your bracelet i put it right on that should be a sign". She told me she loved me and I should call her tomorrow. So I called her and asked her about what she aid about the bracelet and of course she wouldn't commit to saying it really was a sign, she did make a comment that "the truth comes out when your drunk". I basically told her I want to give her space if that's what she needs and I want to be in her life as much as she can allow me to right now, and that if she needs to talk about anything even stuff besides us I a here for her. She said this makes me nervous to talk about it and so I said well I ill let you go, and she said I will talk to you soon. I have not heard anything from her since and I have not contacted her at all either. I really want her back but I don't want to push her away... I am positive there is not another guy... What do I do? All I want is her back... I am very much in love with her...

Jm give her space. If it is meant to be and she feels the same for you as you do her then she will be back. If not then the sun will come up anyway and you must let her go. You can not make someone love you or be with you if they do not want to. So I am sorry for how this is going down but remember most of us have been there and it does get better. It may not be what you want but it will still be all right. So just give her space and let her make her mind up. It probably will not be in your favor but keep your head up and remember it is not the end of the world, it feels like it but it is not just a bump in the road of life. Good luck and God bless.

You really need to let this stranger go, and get some reality here. She dumped you and your holding on to an idea that ain't happening. That's really obvious.

Disappear from her life the way she disappeared from yours. Sorry for your loss.

I and everyone else who will post after me is going to tell you the same thing; give her space.. Not contacting her and giving her what she asked for will make her think twice. It might take a week or two, but wait it out, and when she does contact for the first time, ignore her and call her back two days later.

I'm going through this now as a matter of fact, but the woman I dated only lasted for 2 months and I was a rebound. I never felt used and I don't regret it because I actually like her. Anyway, I need to get the message across that I'm not one to be toyed with, and the best way to do that is to cut off all contact with her. Doing so gives me control of the situation.

Yes, give her space. Since you two already know each other, this isn't a case of talking her into giving you a chance. She did that already. So, now she is at the point that she's going to stay or go solely on her own, there is little you can do to affect that. Truly.

The adage, "let her go, if she comes back she's yours, if not she never was..." (paraphrased) was designed for you.

Since your at the stage of commitment, this is reality time. Either you BOTH connect fully and on the "forever" path or you don't. It takes two. If you did and she didn't... it's over. The sooner you latch onto that reality, the sooner you get a shot at the BOTH with someone else. Until then... frustration.

I agree, give her space, find other things to do, if you want to check in weekly one time IF you don't hear from her, fine... and that's only if you're going crazy about her... but giving her space and letting her contact you is your best shot at keeping her or getting her back... SHE has to miss you and want you... SHE knows you want her and she knows it's buggin you out big time to have no contact with her.
YOU take the ball in your court; you're the prize here; tell yourself that... if it's not meant to be then another will win that prize; that's you. So no contact, let her come to you. Be confident.

Give her space for sure!. but if you want her back... once in a while contact her.. show her your OK... having fun... that will get her jealous... flirt with her, then fall back... give and take... play the game... thats if you want her back

OR... just back off totally and HOPE she decides to come back... ur choice...

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There's a lot of good advice here. I love that there are woman that are answering these types of questions because it is something they have most likely done in the past or just have knowledge of. I am in the same boat as you brother and it sucks! It's not all necessarily bad though. My girlfriend has expressed her love for me and desire to build a future with me since we started talking. Then just the other night she was crying and hugging me for dear life and kissing me between sobs saying that she didn't want to hurt me and that just the other day she started 2nd guessing everything in her life including me. I presume that she said everything so as not to make me feel isolated in her 2nd thoughts. I love this girl and I want to be with her so bad but if I do not give her the space she asked for I might not ever get her back. Might I suggest that you give her ampel space. Make your life and enjoyment the prime focus in your life right now. Because if she does in fact call you on that dreadful day and she does break up with you( hopefully not!! ) you would have already started making the necessary menatl steps you need to make to ween her out of your life. If she (hopefully!! ) calls you and says she's decided she loves the sh it out of you and wants you to come back to momma you will back on top of your came because you have weened yourself from her just enough to where you become mysterious. Because she thought she had you figured out but nope because you're a bad *** motha fuc ka and no man or woman will ever understand the mystery that is you because your just that cool. Lol keep your head up and get on top of the game.