I'm tired of the stupid emotional rollercoaster I've put myself in. I can't even blame my ex for making me depressed and hurt, this is definitely all MY doing. I choose to stay home most of the day and ditch my friends and family just to lay in bed and sob over the memories and how great things used to be. Every time I think of him I feel this ball in my throat or in the pit of my stomach like I just heard the worst news of my life. And I always ask myself "Why should I be sad over him? It's not like he's feelin this way over me!?". I try to think positive but it only lasts for 5 minutes until I go back to thinking "What if he doesn't love me? or "Maybe he really does just need a break". He's like a complete stranger to me, like I have no idea who he is or if he ever loved me at all. Sure he's nice and sweet and amusing when I'M in a good mood but as soon as I mention us and our relationship it's "I got to go, I'm going to call you later" only for him to not call at all until days later when I'm fine again. I really don't deserve this. I'd like to think I was a good girlfriend for the most part. We all do. But maybe I wasn't enough. Or maybe he just got tired of the same thing everyday. I feel so dumb for even thinking this was someone I was going to spend my life with. Now there is someone new in my life who actually gives me the time of day and treats me how I want to be treated, but I can't even get to know him better because my heart won't let me. I'm really caught between what my mind thinks and how my heart feels. It's driving me crazy. I know the pain will go away eventually, but why does it have to take so long?? I just want to move on at this point. I wish I could change how I feel with the flip of a switch. If only it were that easy...


I don't know I needed to get it off my chest. Holding it in just made it worse.

Acting like you are is only going to prolong the state that your in, the state you so desperately want to be out of. Getting better isn't something that just happens, it takes work and deliberate actions by you to accomplish. As long as you dwell on what happened, how it happened, how it was your fault, and what you did wrong... you aren't going anywhere...

Make a promise to yourself. Stop ditching your friends, stop sitting around when you have other things to do. Its not easy to just "put him out of your mind" but by keeping busy, doing distracting things, it just sort of happens...

Vent, baby, vent, then get busy. Sitting on the pity pot, is not an option in these parts!!

The reason you're so flummoxed is because you're used to following your heart. Right now, your heart is acting like a spoiled baby and it needs some "time out".

That's why, in the end, you have to control your life with your head. Your head is much more capable of doing the right thing, even if it's unpopular with your heart or your friends.

Keep in mind your feelings for your ex won't actually go away. Your heart won't allow it. So what? Given the right circumstances, your heart WILL fall for someone again, you just have to force the issue.

So, don't bother trying to get over the ex-feelings... that's a waste of time. But you DO have to get to that next chapter as soon as possible.

Deep breaths, a full social calendar, and NO SILENCE when you're at home. Keep the radio/TV blasting if necessary.

Join a club.
Fly a kite with a kid.

Remember life is supposed to be lived, not regretted. So get out there.

The best thing about roller coasters? They stop, you get off, and you walk away.

Pull the brakes, get off the tracks, and walk away.

Its all a mental battle, dear. You are in control. Choose to move on. Choose to walk away.

You start thinking about him, choose to stop thinking about him. Make yourself refocus on something that is positive in your life, something that you are working towards, something that makes you feel invigorated and alive.

Stop the coaster, get off the track, and walk away.

Well like you said, time is really the only thing that is going to make this one better.

You can't really force these feelings out of you, they kind of just take their course.. however there are things you can do to speed up the process. And by the sounds of it you already know what they are but for some reason aren't doing them. Get out of bed! See some friends, talk with your family, all these people are here for you and want to help you. There is more to life than this guy, so get out there and do something. It will make you feel a world of better.

Face the facts, its over with this guy, so stop allowing him to come back into your life over and over again only to make you feel miserable. End it for good, tell him you need your own time to deal with this and that you would like him to leave you alone. Until you do that you are going to be stuck in break-up limbo.

We've all been in your shoes. It took me a good 2 years to get over my ex who I was with for 3 years. It just takes time. But try not to stay home all the time. Force yourself to go out. Buy a cute new outfit, get your hair done, and go hang out with your girlfriends for a night.