Question: How can you be married for almost 18 years and things go so sour that you feel like you do not even know if you are in love with this person anymore especially when you are just not happy with the way the marriage is? Is it normal to think of other men and want to start a new life? I have stuck it out for so long through thick and thin and I believe it is due to my three children. I fear being alone and the insecurities that go alone with it. I just feel we are such different people. I want to love him but I do not know how to get those feelings back or were they ever really there? I feel like I am verbally abused by him. He never physically abuses me, however, he is so loud and is always dictating to me. Things honestly have been very tough financially these past few years. My husband has been out of work on a head injury since Dec. 07 and I just think he is so miserable with himself that he cannot make me happy. I know money isn't everything but he cannot provide me with anything at all right now and believe me I have stuck through more than one accident with him. He is so accident prone. He is a good father but there is definitely something like clicking with my feelings and wants to be with him but I do not want to hurt him. Confused: