I am 33 years old a mother of 3 for the past year I have been going through a lot and I feel worthless and unwanted I have bad mood swings all my bones in my body ache all the time I have lost all my sexual desires. My life I feel is over I make everyday miserable for everyone in it I don't mean to it just happens. I wish I knew what was going on with me but I don't. Can someone please help me fiure it out?

Sometimes when your life goes to focusing on you and taking care of yourself only then going to having a child and focusing everything on them, it is sometimes depressing sometimes forgetting who you are. In your case you have 3 children maybe it feels like a burden and like you are losing yourself. Try talking with a counsellor to give you professional advice and I hope everythign works out for you.

Sounds like depression to me. I had all the same symptoms as you a few years ago. I suggest you contact a doctor to let him / her know how you are feeling. I'm 35 and I got put on medication for depression and it has helped me out so much. I had to go through a few different medications until I found the one that worked right for me but boy what a difference it has made in my life. You need to feel better for yourself and your 3 kids. I wish you the best and hope you start feeling like yourself again. Depression is a horrible feeling.

I agree with happytohelptoday. First consider your regular doctor. Sometimes, these are symptoms of a low thyroid. You would be surprised how much it has helped me since I've been on medication for that.

You have 3 children. I'm wondering if money is an issue? If so, there are agencies that will provide services free or at a low cost. Churches, health departments would be a good start. If money isn't an issue, go see a psychiatrist. I had mood swings until I was prescribed the correct medicine. It's an awful feeling. In the meantime, write down 5 good things about yourself. Look at it every morning, and every time you start getting down. Just 5. In the morning, make a list of what you need to do for the day (and that you have time for). It may be only 3 or 4 items. Scratch them off as you finish. It feels good. And, at night, write down 10 things you are grateful for. Specific things. Not things like good health, wonderful family, pretty day; but tiny things like - I'm thankful I didn't kick the dog today. I'm thankful I got out of bed, stuff like that. Make each day a different 10. This will get you through until you get counseling with a psychologist and/or medication. You will have the most success with the combination of the two. Medicine doesn't cure everything. Good luck.

Baby, Jesus loves you!. I do too. Geesh I wish you were my neighboor, we'd have a lot to talk about. Misery loves company. Check out the support groups in your newspaper for depression, peri-menopause, (divorced?) singles etc.
Get out of the house a little, for YOURSELF. I love to play music when I get overwhelmed or depressed, U2's 'Actung baby' CD is great!. it works for me, and I get the house cleaned up by not sitting on my hump and watching TV...

Hi, lilpnellie2000!

You've already received some excellent advice and suggestions here and I do hope that you return!

As far as finding people with whom to share and discuss your situation, you've come to the right place!

I can sympathize with the way that you feel and think, because I've been down that same road a number of times in my life.

I want to thank everyone for there suggestions money is an issue with the doctor part I have no insurance to pay for the prescriptions or to go see a therapist I only wish I did. I try to think of the good thing about myself everyday, and everyday it just keeps getting harder I work 58 hours a week sometimes more just to stay out of the house. So I am not here to make anyone miserable. I feel like they don't help me when I am here and don't care especially my husband he only makes everything harder on me this is my second marriage the kids are by the first one. The kids and I do everything around the house even the trash while he does nothing that really eats at me a lot. We have big disagreements about that all the time. Anyway thank you all for you comments and taking the time to read my problems I don't have anyone to talk to or to cry to if I did maybe things would be different.

Lilpnellie2000 - Are you in the US? If you are trying applying for assistance for you and your children. As for your husband he needs to be there for you no matter what. I hope you will soon be happy and things turn around.

It has been Satan's desire to downplay human worth for ages.God sent His only son to die in your place,to restore we sinful humans to Himself.If you repent(turn from) of your sins and believe Christ rose from the dead,you shall be saved.

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