Hi, I am 28 yr old Male.. I am in decent shape, and 155 lbs in weight.. I also work out.. I never masturbated until I was 26 yr old, and I used to get wet dreams very often.. Then I fell into a relationship with a girl, and then she always helped me either masturbate or I will have sex with her and then orgasm.. But I always felt that I came too early, which always depressed me as I wanted to please her by delaying my orgasm.. I used to read a lot on internet as to how to delay the orgasm, and how to please her with foreplay.. I read about exercise called Kegel, and have been doing it since then.. But I was out of the relationship with that girl in 8 months, and since then I haven't had another relationship.. But since then, I am feeling that my sex drive has increased way too much.. And I feel a need to masturbate every other day.. and I do it as well.. I masturbate almost 3-4 times a week.. my masturbation lasts for like 6-7 minutes, and I want to delay that as well.. but again, even after masturbating so often, I still keep getting wet dreams.. and sometimes, on consecutive days.. like I masturbated today, and tomorrow, I will get wet dreams.. and even on next day I will get wet dreams.. this really amuses me, and sometimes also frustrates me, as I had read that once you start masturbating, you no longer get wet dreams.. but I am clueless as to why this is happening.. and also, the day since I am out of the relationship with the girl, I am seeing plenty of break-outs (pimples) on my face and back... I am also losing lot of hair on my head, and am getting hairy on my face.. I am already hairy in the first place, and have a thick beard.. I went to a doctor 4 months ago, and he did a full body check up including hormonal checkup, and he told me that all my hormones are in correct amount, and also I do not have any deficiency of any sort.. so I don't know what is going on with me..

The way I got of the relationship with my previous girlfriend was really bad.. as she cheated me big time as she was seeing 2 other men besides me behind my back.. and when I came to know, I was completely shattered... Although its been almost 9 months since that happened, I am still trying to get out of it.. I am also planning to get married soon, say sometime next year.. but I want to make sure that nothing is wrong with me as I don't want to ruin someone else's life if there is something wrong with me.. So someone can please tell if why is all this happening to me, and is everything normal?

Thanks in advance..

Let's get the playing field clear: your problem is that you suffer from premature ejaculation during sex, and you have a lot of wet dreams. You went to see a doctor, and after a very thorough screening he told you that there's nothing physically wrong with you. Now, the other option left is that your two problems really come from your mind, and you've let your head run your body into a state of extreme sexual frustration. You wrote that you never masturbated until you were 26. Why on earth did you wait so long?

:) it sounds like your body is just ready to explode. If you want my opinion, you should consider adding more orgasms to your week. This might reduce the number of wet dreams you're having (if it doesn't add to it! Lol). About lasting longer in the sack, some men masturbate before sex (they think we don't know about this secret, but we do :)). This will make you last longer. Also, if you're too excited during sex, slow down. Take your time. Communicate with your partner during sex. If you have to, you can even stop for a bit, or pull out, pay attention to her body for awhile, and then go back at it. Try to make sex last for hours. The kama sutra also has lots of tips for lasting longer. Switch positions. Focus your energy differently. Sex is a form of art.

You're probably breaking out and losing your hair because you're stressing yourself out about everything. Relax and everything will be better.

It sounds like you just have a high sex drive. I was reading about a new study about men with high testosterone levels and how many times they bald sooner, but have more body hair than men with lower testosterone levels-but that's just a study right now. I agree with Linnealand about breaking out because of stress, that is very common. My husband used to have the same problem about not lasting long enough. He would masturbate a couple hours before we went out on a date (just in case ;) )
And what does it matter how long you last, as long as the lady is satisfied? Any rate, hope I helped. :)

I know that I am suffering from Premature Ejaculation, and that is why I have been doing Kegel exercise for sometime now. I read a lot about how to control PE, and found that Kegel is the best for it.. Although I myself do feel that masturbating a couple of hours before having sex with my partner would help.. I say this because when I was with my girlfriend and when we had sex in the night, then I didn't last long.. but then when we had sex after few hours in the mid-night, or sometimes in the morning after we had it in the night, then I lasted very long.. I also have read that PE is more of a mental thing than physical, but I am unable to figure out how to control your mind in order to last long.. But I am definitely working on it..

Regarding starting masturbation at 26, I always felt before that that masturbating might create some problems with my penis, and I also read something like that as well.. And there were a few occasions when I tried masturbating, but I couldn't orgasm even though I got the arousal and everything.. But I did keep getting wet dreams, which was like once or sometimes twice a week.. And yes, I do stress a lot these days.. And regarding the recent study on high testosterone levels and getting bald and having lots of hair on body, I myself read the same.. and in fact, I do have lots of hair on my body, and this was the reason I did a hormonal checkup, but everything came normal in that.. So I am confused as to what is the reason.. I just want to know that is it possible that something is wrong with me, or is this normal..

It doesn't sound like there's anything *wrong* with you. What you've described are common issues in men. I don't know about the masturbation issue; most guys start earlier. I don't know what you read about normal masturbation causing penile problems, but it sounds odd to me. Being a hairy guy is genetics. If you want to appear less hairy, I would suggest getting waxed.