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  • Oct 3, 2008, 06:08 PM
    art_of_drowning
    So I'm going to ask my girl to marry me. But.
    I donno how to tell me parents.

    They really like her.

    And I am deeply in love with her,
    She means the world to me.

    I'm 20 and she is 21.

    We both want to get married, and we both feel the same for each other.

    The thing is.

    We already have it all planned out,

    We are both going back to school in jan, and we are going to go get better jobs that can support us.

    We plan on getting married when we are at the age 26, 27.

    But I want to ask her to marry me now, to let her know I'm serious about it and that I want her,

    There are many thing running through my head like.

    How should I ask her? I want to do something she will remember forever.

    I know she won't say no. but I'm still afraid of rejection,

    And how do I tell me parents?

    I'm the youngest in my family, my sister is 23 soon to be 24 this month, and she isn't even engaged yet. I'm worried since I'm the youngest they will tell me I should wait to make this decision till I'm older. But I know its what I want,

    Me and her already have everything planned out.

    This girl is truly amazing, I counldnt live my life without her.
  • Oct 3, 2008, 06:24 PM
    Alty

    I don't see a problem, you stated that you want to wait a few years, tell your parents and hers the same thing. You are a bit young now, but at 26 and 27 you won't be.

    As long as you are financially prepared to support yourselves your parents and hers shouldn't be that concerned.

    As for how to ask her, that's up to you, it's a personal thing. I'm sure you'll find a great way to propose.

    Good luck.
  • Oct 5, 2008, 07:37 PM
    hollylovesbrandon

    You are an adult. Do what you want regardless. They can't dictate to you anymore. Just do it, then tell your parents you did it over dinner or something. That's what I did with my dad.
  • Oct 5, 2008, 07:40 PM
    ISneezeFunny

    Although I agree with holly that you are an adult, there's something calming and supportive of having your parents' back.

    Plus, I'm an old fashioned guy... I'd ask my parents, then ask her parents for permission.
  • Oct 5, 2008, 07:59 PM
    hollylovesbrandon

    I apologize. Maybe a little of that was tmy rebellious spirit coming out. I didn't mean to say it so, I guess you could say, deliberately. Just ask her parents and let your parents know. That's all. Even if they do disagree, you know in your heart it's right... it will all work out in the long run.
  • Oct 6, 2008, 03:55 PM
    vanessa1987
    If I am from another country and want to get married to someone that live here do I have to wait until months pass.
  • Oct 6, 2008, 06:24 PM
    hollylovesbrandon

    Please do not ask a question in another persons question. It confuses people. Start a new thread so that your question can get the answers it deserves.
  • Oct 6, 2008, 06:29 PM
    Alty

    Holly, when that happens just report piggybacking, the mods will post the question on a new thread. :)

    I've already done that, so it should be moved soon. :)
  • Oct 6, 2008, 06:41 PM
    ylaira

    Parents only object on major decisions/plans like marriage if they sense something you just ignore and feel your unpreparedness: be it maturity, your compatibility with your partner and money. Show them you're a grown up man and has a capability to build your own family and father children.
    Beside's your plan is settling down by 26,27 so what's the problem? Is it a religion or some customs?
  • Oct 10, 2008, 01:07 PM
    talaniman

    Your old enough to make your own decisions, and hopefully mature enough to deal with the parents issue.

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