I am 30 weeks pregnant and currently have no income because my boyfriend lost his job ago. Do any of you know in virginia how I can get help? I am willing to try anything. We don't even have anything for the baby yet. Anything is welcome.

Have you visited your Department of Social Services?

Home Page - Virginia Department of Social Services

Yes and as far as they revealed to me the only way they can assist me right now is with food stamps.

I am usually the last person to advocate this---but have you thought of adoption?

You obviously can't afford this child, and an adoptive family is usually glad to help out with your medical bills, food and lodging while you are pregnant.

You'd be giving a child a chance at a financially stable life, and most adoptive parents would be fine with letting you have SOME part of your child's life, as well (by this, I mean an open or semi-open adoption).

If that's just NOT an option for you--what about YOUR job? Do you have insurance? What about your families--both yours and your boyfriends'--are they able to help you? How about your church?

The Welfare system and the taxpayers' money should be the LAST place you look for help, not the first.

There are several groups, Catholic charities, Lutheran chariteis along with various food pantries and many groups.
Basically you need to go down the list, and see what each will help with, Also salvation army and check with the united way for suggestions.

Can your boyfriend get another job? Even minimum wage would be better than nothing. Do you work?

As J_9 stated, try your social services department. You may be eligible for Medicaid since he lost his job. They will require you to provide proof of income for the entire household and if he is in the household then you would provide your proof and his as well as his separation notice that he should be provided from his employment. The system was created to temporarily aid families in need and this is a time of need. You are able to look up the eligibility requirements online for Medicaid in your state as well. Just Google "Medicaid eligibility in Virginia". Hopes this helps.

No, adoption is not an option I am going to look into. I: thought about it and it tore me up inside. This is only a temporary situation. I have gone through a list of faith based organizations and we may be able to get help now that we have an eviction notice. Thanks all who replied

Hello, my name is Cari and I am 23. I am currently pregnant [due on Christmas day of all days :D ] and receiving disabilaty benefits [which is in no way able to support us]. I also have a son [Shadoe] who is currently 2, from my previous marriage I have 50% custody of him]. My boyfriend [24, Michael] recently lost his job to no fault of his own, and due to complications is unable to receive unemployment at this time.

My family is currently under financial distress. We received an order to appear in court for eviction and also expect our electric to be cut off soon as well [among other bills such as our cells and internet/cable] I wish to inform you that we have gone to our DSS and are only able to receive food stamps. I am also going to local churches who provide financial assistance for our eviction but the help they can provide just isn't going to help us meet what is due by Nov. 3rd [in total for this month and next including costs, is around $2000.]
To top it off, due to this crisis we cannot even buy the simple things we need for our upcoming arrival like a crib or diapers. :eek:

I am asking for any information that can help point me in the right direction to get further assistance. Whether it be private donation or through internet organizations, we are truly in distress.

I thank you for reading this post.
Sincearly,
~Cari <3

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Hello, my name is Cari and I am 23. I am currently pregnant [due on Christmas day of all days :D ] and recieving disabilaty benifits [which is in no way able to support us]. I also have a son [Shadoe] who is currently 2, from my previous marriage I have 50% custody of him]. My boyfriend [24, Michael] recently lost his job to no fault of his own, and due to complications is unable to recieve unemployment at this time.

My family is currently under financial distress. We recieved an order to appear in court for eviction and also expect our electric to be cut off soon as well [among other bills such as our cells and internet/cable] I wish to inform you that we have gone to our DSS and are only able to recieve food stamps. I am also going to local churches who provide financial assistance for our eviction but the help they can provide just isnt going to help us meet what is due by Nov. 3rd [in total for this month and next including costs, is around $2000.]
To top it off, due to this crisis we cannot even buy the simple things we need for our upcoming arrival like a crib or diapers. :eek:

I am asking for any information that can help point me in the right direction to get further assistance. Whether it be private donation or through internet organizations, we are truely in distress.

I thank you for reading this post.
Sincearly,
~Cari <3

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This should be combined with your earlier posts - you received some excellent advice at that time and I don't see that the situation has changed.

Threads merged

Maybe you can post something on craigslist.org requesting donations for the baby like clothing, stroller, etc. Anything in used or mint condition. I recently saw a posting about a teacher requested donations for any baby items for her 15 year old student that is pregnant and can't afford anything for the baby in NY. I donated a few things and will donated more after my baby shower. Just make sure you post it in your city and under baby+ kids. Your be surprise about what people would do.

Your local social services agency should be able to help you with your eviction or do you have a homeles division in your area because they try to prevent evictions and usually will help. That all I have.

I don't cocider the earlyer advice to be sufficient. And that's why I wanted the newly detailed piece in the charity section

You have received some wonderful advice thus far. Unfortunately we are not philanthropists here. We are ordinary people who live ordinary lives, and due to the current economic situation, many of our members have fallen on hard times as well.

Also, we come from all walks of life from all over the world. What charities and financial help is available in one are of the world, may not be available in your area.

Here are some charities I found in VA. You should call them and explain your situation to see if they can be of assistance. Also, the second one have a link to Red Cross and they usual help and I know during Christmas they give out gifts to kids and that can help with your other child and they might be able to gave you things for the baby.

Catholic Charities East VA - Virginia Beach, VA, 23462-1897 - Citysearch -

.. :: Charities - LocalKicks Alexandria Virginia kids Boys & Girls Clubs Campagna Center Homes VA Events of Old Town Charities Alexandria Virginia TOWN TALK VA Homes local Charities of Town Alexandria Virginia Health kids :: ..

<edit> If you receives SSI you can only receive food stamps because they consider that an income but if your getting eviction and you provide them with the notice, they should be able to help and that goes for your Conedision bill too. You can also contact ConEdision for an etension and they would give you a payment pay it depends on your history with them. Or do you have a HEAP office in area, you can find out from your social service area because they help people who lights are going get shut off.

Wonderful advice... adoption. I didn't want that post in the pregnancy section. ::sigh:: I can't even edit my first post to say my new explanation. But none-the-less this old thread is getting new hits...

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I dont cocider the earlyer advice to be sufficient. And thats why I wanted the newly detailed piece in the charity section

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Virginia is a pretty big State - where in Virginia?

And did you check with Medicaid?

And as far as your boyfriend - if he is unemployed and bringing in no income he needs to either fight for his (continuing) unemployment, minimally his back unemployment, and get a job. He may have to work at McDonalds or Burger King or someplace he'd rather not work but people are hiring, particularly in retail big box stores, because of the holidays.

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Virginia is a pretty big State - where in Virginia?

And did you check with Medicaid?

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I have medicare and am waiting on my approval for medicaid, still. And I am in fredericksburg/stafford VA.

My BF is aware that he needs to get a job no matter what but things are complicated with his license and I can't drive a stick. The only time I can go to the charities is when his mom takes me.

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I have medicare and am waiting on my approval for medicaid, still. And I am in fredericksburg/stafford VA.

My BF is aware that he needs to get a job no matter what but things are complicated with his liscence and I can't drive a stick. the only time I can go to the charities is when his mom takes me.

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Sounds like a terrible situation - but I have no idea where else you can turn. What about family?

The only charities I found in your area are:
Fredericksburg charities guide find a charity to donate or volunteer.

Salvation Army - www.uss.salvationarmy.org - (540) 604-9193 -

Salvation Army - www.uss.salvationarmy.org - (540) 373-3431 -

You can also Google charities in your area to see what you find and use craigslist.org

Good Luck!