Okay I dated this girl for a year and we fell in love and all that good stuff. Then we decided to break up because life was getting in the way. Too much stuff going on in both of our lives to hold together a healthy relationship. We both still loved each other. We kind of sopped talking for a bit because we were so busy we just could barely find time to breathe.. once things started to calm down I tried to move on and date someone else because I didn't think her life was going to get any simpler any time soon... but then once I was dating the other girl for about a month she came back and her life had calmed down and she wants to get back together. Fter talking with her I realized how much I still love her but I also now have feelings for the other girl... I don't know what to do... I feel like I am getting pulled apart like a tug of war... what advice can you give?

Did the ex know about the new girl? How old are you?

I'm not to keen on going back to an ex who had no time for me, to be honest.

I'm not to keen on a female that shows attention when you have found another either.

I also doubt, though the feelings are strong, or intense, with your ex, that what you have is love, because you would have adjusted, and managed your time to include each other some kind of way, rather than breaking up. That's a little to final.

I hope this new female isn't just a rebound as that would be a shame, to have to tell her the ex wants you back.

Naw, I don't see going back, but that's just my opinion.

She might just be coming back to you now because you're with someone else.

Yep, she wants her cake and be able to eat it too. She will only be around for the amount of time it takes to break you two up, then she's back out of the picture.

Was never real love, if it was you would have changed your life if needed for the other person, never allowed it to get in the way.

And you would not just stop contact. So move on with your life.

I think you are 2 timing,and even in that you are feeling as if you are doing a great deed.Just imagine if your 2nd girl has a boy friend and is not able to forget him,will you accept her? Don't ever look for enjoyment at evry corner of your life.Try to see it in a real scenario and adjust.If you are going to continue this you are going to ruine(distroy) 3 lives at a time.Ask yourself whom do want for rest of your life.dont weigh pros and cons in this because its not a business its life.Go by instinct. Let go of one of the girls,may be she might feel bad for some time,but time is a good healer.See your life 20yrs from now,whom do you think will be good for you then,stay with her.Coz when young every one is good, but if you see this sustain till some 10 years then it's the best. Best of luck in the game of life.may light be with u.