Long distance relationships never work for me
We are both young, just finishing high school and all. We dated for the entire senior year and now that the summer has past she's going to university 4 hours away. We tried the whole long distance relationship thing but that went sour after two weeks as we fought on a daily basis about her drinking problems since she's been there. She never drank often, but now she's drinking every weekend and the odd time during the week going to class hungover. Since we broke up, she hasn't talked to me. I've messaged her once or twice but those conversations didn't last long at all as they led to another argument. So overall id say we were on bad terms at the moment. But here's the thing. She came home this weekend as it was her birthday on Thursday. She was home all weekend... but she never called or texted me which is fine and understandable. She must still be hurting and such but I really don't feel that much pain. This isn't the first time we've broken up... it happened a little over a month before this time actually. But the thing is that she's always told me was that after we broke up she always wanted to be really good friends afterwards but at the moment she doesn't seem interested in a friendship. I am concerned about her drinking but if I ever mentioned it to her she would start another argument. On Thursday she messaged me on msn, for the first time in three weeks. She said hey, I gave her the "happy birthday" greeting to later find out that she was going out that night and partying with her sister who was to drive her home the Friday morning. I said something along the lines of "seems like all you ever do now is party" and she flipped. She told me that I always seem to make her feel guilty for going out and having fun with her friends regardless if she is drinking or not? I was thinking... where did that come from. So I'm assuming that had to do with the whole... ignoring me while she was home. She is suppose to come home for thanksgiving in a little over two weeks. Im going to give the "no contact" thing a go but id really like to stay friends with her. What do you think I should do?