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  • Sep 26, 2008, 10:54 PM
    killy11
    How do I stop being jealous? Is this being jealous?
    My girlfriend sent messages to guys do I have the right to be jealous? And when I ask her she make it out of fight saying I do not trust her.
    What is it?
  • Sep 26, 2008, 11:05 PM
    ylaira

    Yes it is!

    What messages she sends to guys? "Does she say, I want to do you, dude?"

    If you keep on being jealous, you will piss her more. She will stay with you if she wants you. She will cheat if she wants to so stop this accusations because it only kills fun. Intead you flirting, laughing and maybe having sex, you are fighting over this "messages".

    Where to focus? On what to make her happy and what you can offer why she do not need any other man. If she's contented and happy with you, there's no expensive car, house or hunky man can ever take her away from you.

    Be comfortable on your own skin. If you know how to appreaciate your own gift from above and capabilities, there's no way you'll be insecure and be jealous. We're born all equal. No person in this world is perfect and it's just a matter of utilizing and improving what you have.

    Take it from a woman. Good Luck
  • Sep 26, 2008, 11:57 PM
    kminni01

    Jealousy should never be part of any relationship. It does put a damper on trust, as in you questioning whether your partner is being faithful. I think you are just being jealous, but try and get the jealousy out of your mind. You should be able to trust your girlfriend. Just talk to her about it. I hope everything works out for you!

    <3 kt
  • Sep 27, 2008, 01:15 AM
    JBeaucaire

    Jealousy is natural. We all feel it. But it's what you DO with that jealousy that's the kicker.

    Jealousy is a personal problem. Even when you acknowledge you're jealous, you DON'T put it on the other person to change THEIR behavior, keep it on yourself.

    WRONG: "You're texting other guys and now I don't trust you."
    RIGHT: "I know you text other guys, and it makes me jealous. I'm working on not being jealous, I appreciate whatever help you can give me. Be patient with me, OK?"

    ylaira is right, your girl either has the ability to cheat or she doesn't. Jealousy aimed at her won't STOP it, but it COULD push her away unnecessarily. Keep it calm.
  • Sep 27, 2008, 08:43 AM
    Romefalls19

    Jealousy is everywhere in life, you can't control that.

    What you can control how you handle it, simple texting to other guys isn't a big deal. I used to be just like you and probably even worse. If she isn't hiding that she's texting him or not hiding that she has a boyfriend then there isn't a problem.

    You will NEVER be able to stop her from cheating, no matter how many restrictions you put on her. If she wants to stray, she's going to. Brush this off your shoulders, lifes way too short to worry about little things like this

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