To masturbate or have sex?
I’d like a little unbiased make input on my situation with my man. He and I have been together for 18 months. Right from the beginning we had excellent sexual chemistry. Then that changed about three months into the relationship. He started pulling away in every way. Sex became increasingly infrequent and when we did have sex it was only to shut me up. I’m not, nor have I ever been an “all the time” kind of woman. But I do enjoy sex much more in my 30’s than I did when I was in my 20’s. My fella has always looked at porn on the net. As usual it bothered me, but I learned to let it go. But we’ve been together for a while now and while he’s not looking at gross porn, just pictures of everyday naked women, it is starting to bother me. Not because of the act itself, but because when he looks at it, he leaves the room to go masturbate in the bathroom or before I get home or in the middle of the night. He never shares in this with me and sex has become so infrequent that we’ve only had it three times in the last seven months. I should point out here that I was pregnant and did give birth, but that only put me out of commission for the six weeks. His reason for never wanting to have sex is that he’s tired. But he stays up till midnight most evenings and he has the energy to satisfy himself, so what’s wrong with satisfying me? I’m not asking for a marathon session. But I do need some intimacy. Let me also say that the only time he’s really affectionate is when he’s leaving for work or he’s made me really angry. But those moments pass. And he’s back to looking at pictures of women while I’m left eager for something I’m thinking he’ll never give unless I make a big deal about it. I don’t want sex to become an argument or chore. What should I do? Is he replacing sex with masturbation? Is he tired or bored? I have no idea what to do…and before anyone starts saying that he’s cheating. He isn’t. I know where he is all the time. ALL THE TIME. We have almost the same schedule most work weeks. He isn’t cheating, but I guess he could be talking to someone he works with…what gives?? Okay men…. Let me hear from you.:confused: