My fiancé and I got engaged on the 21st of this month:D and she has told her dad which isn't a bad thing he quite likes the idea.

But the thing is her mother and my mother doesn't know and neither of us think that they will agree with the situation...

Can anyone give us some advice on how to go about telling our parents please :confused:

What is the reason that you don't think the "moms" will like the idea? I think that would have a huge bearing on what you say to them.

Generally though, you need to sell them on the idea. Just like any type of "sales"... you have to overcome their objections.

I think you both need to take it slow. If you can't find the courage to tell your mothers, what makes you think you are ready for this huge step?

If the both of you're adults then what is the problem? No matter if your mom and her mom disagrees, it still is your life and choice.

My mom and my daughter father mom never get along. She was livid when I told her we were having a baby. Now, 7 years later, they get along great.

Sooner or later someone will have to tell them. Moms like to be inform about these things. Regardless, if they like the idea or not, at least they were inform.

I just recently got married myself, and I'm a mom... mom's don't like to be the last ones informed of important events. Although, I know how my mother in law took the news when we first told her. What we did was just out and told several people at once in the same place that way if one person had outrageous feelings they would have to suppress it until they had time to think about it. We let the situation force everyone to accept our engagement. And now, everyone is just as happy as we are. Appease your future mother in laws, for the happiness of everyone!

I agree with wings if you think there will be will a big blow up maybe annouce it at a dinner out with friend or soemthing similar.. Just remember you will have to talk about this with them later, so be prepared maybe start by telling your parnets you love them both and thank them for all they have dome for you, but now you found your true love and want nothing more then to have them be a part of your celebration.. Be calm as you can be and you might find it won't be as hard as you think..


Good luck to you I wish you the besst...