I met this guy a long time ago when I was 16, we dated for a couple weeks but split up because I was so young. Well now 9 years later we have met up again. But under different circumstances

I just came out of a relationship with my child's father that I was in for 3 1/2 years. And he just split up with his wife about a year ago.

Here is the problem... He works with my baby's father, they associate on a daily basis.
Me and him have been seeing each other on a pretty regular basis for the past 2 weeks. We see each other just about everyday after work, we spent the night with each other 2 times and he calls me everyday-several times a day. I really like him but my baby's father is still wanting to get back with me, and he got wind that me and his co-worker had been seeing each other.

My problem is... I don't want to be back with my child's father, I want to be with this guy. But because it has been so much drama between him and my child's father, we have been hiding it. Well I say hiding it... but basically only hiding it from my child's father, we go out everywhere together basically as a "couple".

He likes me, I like him... We are getting close, but how do I take the next step and turn this into a relationship?:confused:

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He likes me, I like him... We are getting close, but how do I take the next step and turn this into a relationship?:confused:

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Enjoy each other, build trust through honest communications, and see what happens.

There is no magic formula!

You can't be responsible for your ex's feelings toward you being with someone else. The 2 of you broke up. That is that. He needs to grow up and allow you to move on.

You shouldn't have to hide anything.

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Originally Posted by DrJizzle

You can't be responsible for your ex's feelings toward you being with someone else. The 2 of you broke up. That is that. He needs to grow up and allow you to move on.

You shouldn't have to hide anything.

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I with her!

I have the same problem

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Me and him have been seeing each other on a pretty regular basis for the past 2 weeks. We see each other just about everyday after work, we spent the night with each other 2 times and he calls me everyday-several times a day.

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I would give this more than two weeks, and I don't care how long you have known each other.

To me, it sounds like you already are in a relationship with the guy. But don't be afraid of having a good relationship with him because of the father of your child. I mean, it's complicated I understand, but what it comes down to is that you like the man you're with right now so be with him and the father of your child will eventually have to come to terms with that. I wish you the best of luck and a long and happy relationship!

<3 kt

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Originally Posted by berrysweetncgurl

My problem is.....I dont want to be back with my childs father, I want to be with this guy. But because it has been so much drama between him and my childs father, we have been hiding it. Well I say hiding it.....but basically only hiding it from my childs father, we go out everywhere together basically as a "couple".

He likes me, I like him.......We are getting close, but how do I take the next step and turn this into a relationship?:confused:

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With this kind of situation, you have got to take it slow. If your child' father still has strong feelings for you, you have to be condsiderate of him. Heartbreak is bad enough but even worse if it one of work mates. Take it slowly and I personally wouldn't hid the relationship from the childs father, that could potentially make it worse. So make it work with child and father involed:)Hope it helps

Well, the whirl wind ended, the problem solved itself. He has now quit calling me (this makes the 4th day in a row) and I haven't seen him since him in DAYS... My feelings are so hurt but I guess this is the normal way to feel