Should I warn my recent ex boyfriends new girl about his cheating ways and lies ?
I recently broke up with my ex-boyfriend. He was/is and will always be a cheater. He lied continuously throughout our relationship, was always seeking thrills, hid things from me, had a very strong porn addition, has an addictive personality-alcohol, drugs. He has a history of cheating, cheated on ex wife several times...
Ok, OK, please don't tell me how stupid I was for being with him. I consider myself a very intelligent women and saw all the red flags but chose to ignore them, like most foolish women in love do when they are being showered with affection, told that he has never been sooo in love, etc. It makes me sick to know know that I actually believed one word from this man's mouth. He did genuinely love me, and for the first time in his life he did come close to reforming, tried... but just could not change who he was.
I was vulnerable, had filed for divorce because of my ex-husband's adultery. It was 7 months after the divorce, I was very lonely, he made me feel like a queen and I ignored all the red flags. UGHHHHH... I know, please don't tell me how stupid I was.
The concern is not with me though. The girl he is now dating (only one short week after we split up-that alone should say something), was the main focus of our arguments throughout the relationship. Long of the short... he was dating her about the same time we started dating. Ended up asking me to be committed to him. I agreed, and also ask that he be done with the other girl as this would be a conflict of interest and always be a temptation for him. He ask me if he could remain friends with her, because they were such good buddies- (after 6 dates... give me a break), and I said no, I'm sorry. So, supposedly he broke all contact with her, until I found out six months later that he had continued to talk to her (via phone record), and who knows what else. Busted him... he was remorseful (sure), cried, begged my forgiveness etc...
So, he still claims they are just friends, said they never even had sex etc... (I know better).
She will become his next victim. He is a liar, a charmer, and I could prove to her (via emails, etc... about how he lies) I could show her the one alone about him saying they have never had sex.
This is not about sour grapes or jealousy. I really feel for her as I know she is being charmed and lied to as well. I will admit also, that I would love to expose him, and let him know I know he has lied. He does not deserve to be with this girl (she probably had no idea about me). He will break her heart... HE IS INCAPABLE OF FIDELITY AND WILL CHEAT ON HER !
Should I confront her... and how should I confront her. I can prove his lies to her via written emails, text messages, etc... She might not like what she hears but how can she hate me when I prove to her that he has lied to her as well.