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Does he ever miss me?

I've been dating this guy for about one year, and I've grown very attached to him. I understand that he's busy sometimes and he respects my space as well. However, whenever he doesn't have the time to speak to me for about three weeks sometimes, and when I see him, it seems like he doesn't care. I know he does, I just wish he would tell me sometimes. He's shyer than most people and I can tell how much he blushes when he tries to tell me how much he loves me. I know this sounds very selfish but does he ever miss me? I just want a little bit more reassurance, he means a lot to me, and I know my relationship with him will grow stronger every moment of the day. :) Please and thank you!

I am not a guy but my boyfriend and exes never stopped talking to me longer than 5 days and act like who doesn't care unless we've broke up.

Nobody can tell if he really missed you. All I say is, gaps shouldn't be that long, regardless if he's the US President in crisis.

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Originally Posted by ylaira

I am not a guy but my bf and exes never stopped talking to me longer than 5 days and act like who doesn't care unless we've broke up.

Nobody can tell if he really missed you. All I say is, gaps shouldn't be that long, regardless if he's the US President in crisis.

Well, it's occasionally three weeks but the normality is only 5 days as well as yours. I just hope he shows it to me. :)

I am a guy and it sounds to me that he is playing not being serious. Three weeks without contact is long. I don't go that long without talking to anyone I know much less a person I am suppose to love. This guy has something else going on, maybe work maybe anything but you are not a priorty so move on with your life and find someone who really cares for you. This is only my opinion so take it or leave it.

5 day-gap is not normal on my relationships. I can only count in my 1 hand how many times it happened.

Now I can say, he's not that into you as much as you are into him. He should be making efforts because you are dating.

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Originally Posted by ylaira

5 day-gap is not normal on my relationships. I can only count in my 1 hand how many times it happend.

Now I can say, he's not that into you as much as you are into him. He should be making efforts because you are dating.

Lol, that's what I mean, I want him to put more effort, and I can tell he's into me, (not to get a debate over here) He does call me sometimes between the 5 day gap, and give me hugs time to time, and kisses, I guess I'm being insecure. Since ever since he moved away from where I was, I got less time to tell him how much I miss him. He ask me soemtimes if I miss him too, so yeah I'm a very insecure girl. But yeah thanks for your answers :D they're making me think more about my relationship with him.

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Originally Posted by redwee74

I am a guy and it sounds to me that he is playing not being serious. Three weeks without contact is long. I don't go that long without talking to anyone I know much less a person I am suppose to love. This guy has something else going on, maybe work maybe anything but you are not a priorty so move on with your life and find someone who really cares for you. This is only my opinion so take it or leave it.

Lol thanks :D Don't worry, it's your opinion, what I see and what I do with him you can't really know completely, so your comments are understandable. However, I will still stick to him like glue rofl no matter how stupid it sounds to others. :D

If you have been dating him for one year and he takes threw weeks out with no communication - that's just odd. It sounds like you two need to talk and get on the same page. Or else find someone new. He obviously doesn't want to be in a relationship with you that bad if he continues to take 3 weeks to himself from time to time. If he missed you, he would be with you.

Hun, how old are you? Him not contacting you for three weeks sometimes should be enough re-assurance that he isn't into it and you as much as you think or feel he is. You need to speak up or stop wasting your time.

Have you talked to him about it? I mean be open with him and there's really nothing else I can say, but the best piece of advise I can give you is that because an open relationship is the best relationship. I wish you both the best of luck!

<3 kt

You have a far superior notion of the importance of your relationship than he does. I'll bet he realizes this and is using it to his advantage. By that, I mean that he does like you, and dating you I'm sure is pleasant, but he knows you'll be there waiting for him each time he's ready to spend time with you.

And he's right.

Now, don't get me wrong, if this is fine with you, then keep going. But your question, "Does he ever miss me?" Silly question. You already know the answer, and you know asking US won't change the answer. No, he doesn't miss you. He doesn't need to.

You've given him nothing to miss. Three weeks of no communication and you're a hopping-happy-little-puppy when he finally calls? What is there to miss?

You asking this question leads me to believe this isn't working for you. So what? You not only aren't going to do anything about it, you'll take the smallest word of attention from him and balloon it into (and I quote): "...I know my relationship with him will grow stronger every moment of the day..."

Sorry, that statement has no basis in reality that I can see, based on your story. Well, let me correct that. I know YOUR growing more attached to him every moment of every day. The time he spends ignoring you appears to make you love him all the more.

Really? I mean, if so, OK. That's fine. But... really?

It sounds like all you're measuring here is some words he doesn't appear to say. If you tell him, I'm sure he'll say them for you if it will secure your leash more fully.

Meanwhile, my most important advice to you is the same I give to all the posters here on the forum: His words are irrelevant...believe his actions.

So, based on his actions, what he DOES (or doesn't do) and how he's able to actually treat you... does this sound like something that is "growing stronger every moment of the day"...?

Does it?

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Originally Posted by kminni01

Have you talked to him about it? I mean be open with him and there's really nothing else I can say, but the best piece of advise I can give you is that because an open relationship is the best relationship. I wish you both the best of luck!

<3 kt

Thank youuu, I have spoken to him about it yesterday and he hugged me and told me that he's so incredibly sorry, and he's been calling me non stop. I told him that I won't leave him for now, and other stuff related. So yeah I understand why he didn't speak to me for so long. He said that he does love me, but even if it's a year he doesn't know how to make me feel right in the best way he can so he grows speechless. Thanks for your advice, your awsome lol

Is he busy a lot?

My opinion won't matter but based on experience, I still FIRMLY believe what JB says. BELIEVE MAN'S ACTION'S, NOT THE WORDS.

So yeah I understand why he didn't speak to me for so long. He said that he does love me, but even if it's a year he doesn't know how to make me feel right in the best way he can so he grows speechless.Watch yourself as 3 weeks is a long time to be speechless.

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Originally Posted by Kyasarin19

Thank youuu, I have spoken to him about it yesterday and he hugged me and told me that he's so incredibly sorry, and he's been calling me non stop. I told him that I won't leave him for now, and other stuff related. So yeah I understand why he didn't speak to me for so long. He said that he does love me, but even if it's a year he doesn't know how to make me feel right in the best way he can so he grows speechless. Thanks for your advice, your awsome lol

You really should consider dating other men in my opinion. It sounds like he is full of excuses. It takes nothing more then common courtesy to call a girl etc. Why are you so hung up on this guy? You should read Why Men Love B-itches. Don't fall into the doormar behaviors with this guy. I really think you value what you have with him much more then he does.

P.s the only time he should be so speechless is when he has you walking down the isle in your wedding dress.