Hi. My partner currently pays through csa for his 2 and a half yr old daughter but has not seen her for 2 years. Firstly the mother wouldn't allow him to see her, now she has changed her tune and wants to cancel the csa and take him to court.The relationship was a violent one, on her part, and not very nice to put it nicely, he can't bear to have this woman in his life anymore due to the hurt and pain she caused to his entire family, therefore he doesn't want to see the child as it means seeing the mother. He has always paid his way and wants the chance to explain his side of the story to his daughter when she is able to understand, as it is she has already been poisned by the mother.
So my question is can she force him to see his daughter and what exactly does relinqushing parental responsibility mean and how do you do it?

If she has a new partner ready to adopt, he can give up his rights to allow the new person to adopt.

Beyond that, no one can force him to visit or see the child, they can merely force him to pay child support. So as long as he pays his check, he can just not be a father.

She can not stop him from seeing the child, so that is (sorry) just bull, he takes her to court and forces her to allow him to have his visits, So he does not visit since he has chosen not to see his child,

He doesn't have to see the child that is his choice. He just has to pay support which he has been so he is in the clear with the courts. But as pointed out there is no need to ask about giving up his rights because unless he can't do it unless it is to make way for an adoption and the mother would have (in most states) have to be married for a year before the court would even look at an adoption. In the rest of the states she would have to be in a serious long term relationship and it doesen't look like she has had enough time for that either.

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Originally Posted by missymoz

Hi. my partner currently pays through csa for his 2 and a half yr old daughter but has not seen her for 2 years. firstly the mother wouldnt allow him to see her, now she has changed her tune and wants to cancel the csa and take him to court.The relationship was a violent one, on her part, and not very nice to put it nicely, he can't bear to have this woman in his life anymore due to the hurt and pain she caused to his entire family, therefore he doesn't want to see the child as it means seeing the mother. He has always paid his way and wants the chance to explain his side of the story to his daughter when she is able to understand, as it is she has already been poisned by the mother.
So my question is can she force him to see his daughter and what exactly does relinqushing parental responsibility mean and how do you do it?

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He is excusing himself with the whole "hurt and pain" story. Apparently at some time she wasn't causing all this "hurt and pain" or he wouldn't have had unprotected sex with the mother.

If he doesn't want to see the child, he doesn't have to. If he wants to see the child, then he asks the Court for a neutral drop off point and doesn't see the mother.

I'm a bit confused. You state that the child's mother is receiving child support through the CSA, but now wants to "cancel the CSA and take him to court." That just plain doesn't make sense. If she already receives child support, then what is she taking him to court for? And why would she cancel the support just to go back to court?

I'm sorry but I agree with Judy; the whole "hurt and pain" bit is a total cop-out. I don't care how much pain I was going through, I would never give up my child for it. I have enough just dealing with my step-kids mother but that doesn't mean I'd ignore them just to be done with her.

And quite frankly, I'm rather disturbed by your comment about "forcing him to see his daughter," as if this child is such a major burden.