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I'm 17 years old and I'm single. I want a boyfriend. Someone to share feelings with all of them.. mentally physically and emotionally. I once had a person like this but that was then.. I want someone new.. I feel so lonely.. the kind that makes you want to shribble up in a corner and die. I'm tried of being alone.. how can I feel better?? What if there isn't someone out there for me.. could I be alone forever?
You won't be alone FOREVER, you're just 17 and forever is eternity.
I understand what you're talking about. My daughter says the same thing about really wanting a boyfriend.
I think that waiting for a guy is unhealthy for your happiness and state of mind. I will say the same to you as I do my own daughter...
Be PROACTIVE... put yourself "out there". Be as social as you can. Try and participate in fun activities where the boys are.
Make sure you have a life though even if there are no boys in the mix. It's important to create a person that you can learn to live with and like... I mean, if you don't have anything going on how can you be attracting? (Honestly, if you can't muster up the desire to be interesting just for yourself, then do it for the reason I just mentioned... ).
Guys are attracted to interesting girls... not only just the hotties.
What's interesting about you?
That's what you need to work on... and the boys will come.. you'll see..
Over the next years most likely boyfiends will come and go.
What is really important first is to learn to be happy with who you are, able to be yourself. You can never really be happy with someone else till you know yourself and learn to be happy with who you are without someone else first
As I stated before, you need to figure out what you are interested in to make you better rounded and more of an interesting person, especially for YOU to be able to relate to. I hope you understand what I mean...
I think you should be a more self confident, and be more independent. (I know, much easier said than done)
The reason I am recommending this is because when you do get a boyfriend, you could latch on to him, and be "clingy." You would think he is the best guy ever because he took you out of your funk, when really he could just be some guy. The mentality you have, that you NEED someone to feel happy and wanted could be dangerous, and could cloud your judgement of many guys.
I don't know how to give advice on how to gain self confidence, but you could talk to counsellors or even friends.
And keep in mind your 17, you have a whole life ahead of you...
As for getting another, think of guys that have been good to you. Be social, as the others explained, and show interest in some guys.
Your right.. ill work on it keep u posted. Your really right.. its true
Guys around your age just want one thing and that is sex. I learned after attending an all guys military high school.
I am not even joking.
I am 16 and sex isn't the ONLY thing I want.Quote:
Originally Posted by hjpan
I definitely agree that most guys do want just that... The "Players"
Of course I want it, but it doesn't completely dictate my life.
And guys in an ALL GUYS military school would be different. I know a private school near my place in Toronto that has the horniest guys I know... They are an all guys school, and only really see girls on weekends and a few holidays, when they can leave campus. They don't even see girls often, so when they do, they just go crazy.
I think a typical teenage guy has more goals to get laid,
but I definately see your point.
I would say a good 95% of guys who date are looking ONLY for sex. Pick them carefully. :)
This also includes college guys D:Quote:
Originally Posted by jrsg
Sad but true.
this sucks =[. I'm tired of immature guys.
Even I am tired of immature guys.
Today they say they love you (just to have sex with you) and then the next morning they don't even talk to you because you say no... then you find they have another girl to goal on for sex.
Just for you to know that there ARE some guys that want gf's. My daughter is 16 and she says that there are boys that do wants this.
Now, don't get upset, but these boys that she's speaking of are usually not the "hotties".
Her bffl has an easy time snagging the boys that are pretty "popular". These boys may not be the MOST POPULAR boys in the school (cuz those ones are players.. ), but they roll w/ them and are not nerdy or weirdos at all. It's very possible to have a boyfriend...
The problem w/ a boyfriend is that things usually get physical pretty soon. With boys it's like a game of domino's... once they've made a move they want to make as many as possible to see how far in the game they can get. It's never due to the love in their hearts, like it is for girls.
Girls seem to "let" the boys make all these moves because they think it will make the boy love them. They do it to please the boyfriend. To keep the boyfriend.
Love is what girls seek... Sex is what boys seek. Let's just remember that boys become MEN at some point. Some men are AMAZING bf's... and later amazing husbands. This is possible to be involved w/ an amazing man. I have one for over a decade, I should know...
You can have a boyfriend... it's not that hard. Just get tight first so you have a friendship. Let the friendship move into a relationship... maybe it will work better for you that way..
Most of all keep yourself surrounded by your girls... they are the foundation of your high school experience. They will carry through the tough times and when they don't... if you keep yourself busy and involved either in sports or something other that keeps your interest... you will always have YOURSELF to fall back on. You'll be able to handle anything in life if you focus on building yourself up, both in a "lifestyle" and in self esteem. They go hand in hand...
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