Tomorrow is the first anniversary of the death of my friend's father. Although my friend has not mentioned it, I remember the date. Should I say something to my friend tomorrow? Or wait and see if she brings it up?

You are so thoughtful to be thinking of your friend at a time like this. I would see if she brings it up first, then gladly lend an ear and tell her you didn't forget.;) That is only my opinion though.

I wouldn't say anything unless she did
Just be ready with open arms and a few tissues

Thanks, Start and Cookie. Your advice makes sense.

I think we all need a friend as thoughtful as you.
Your being a great friend to her and don't you forget it

As long as there is a question on your part, at least you are not aware that you would be stepping into an area you should avoid. Sometimes people actually wish others would acknowledge their loss, and remembering a year later is special to them, in my opinion.

I might say something like, "I was thinking of your father. I know it's been a year." If the other person shows no interest to pick up on the conversation, you do not have to go any further. But it is possible your comment will open the way to a conversation that will be really helpful to the friend.

I know my thoughts here are late for the first anniversary of the death, but maybe this can be helpful in a general way.

I agree that you are a thoughtful person.

IM4U
And your friend

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Originally Posted by jjwoodhull

Tomorrow is the first anniversary of the death of my friend's father. Although my friend has not mentioned it, I remember the date. Should I say something to my friend tomorrow? Or wait and see if she brings it up?

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I am still going through the grieving process, not even close to a year - but I was grateful (through my tears) when people remembered my husband's birthday and either called or sent a note and basically said, "We have not forgotten."

I will feel the same on the anniversary of his death.

Sometimes if no one says anything you feel so alone -

I think if she is your friend she will find comfort in your remembering.