Hey guys well just wanted to let you know my girlfriend of only 1 year really wants me to marry her, now I am all for it and I want to have a life.

But a few months ago she was wanting me to quit my job and be with her, I told her my reasons as to why I could not, most of you know my story and have had said some great things.

I'm shocked, and I don't get shocked that easy. I have no idea what to do. I can see myself with her for the rest of my life I really do have strong feelings for her, we do get on really well, but a year! Come on that's like Ideal stage.

I think I will tell her to wait at least another 2 years. I think that will give us more than enough time to really get to know each other because I know I she does not know everything about me yet,. because as of now we have not really lived together for that long, I work a lot and in my heart I want this to work. But my mind tells me different.

Oh by the way I'm 25 she is 28.

Well I guess I have made up my mind I will tell her to wait, and we will see how it goes from there.

Thanks guys

Regards

Well, I can see why she would be in a rush to get married, as I'm sure a lot of her friends are married or about to get married, not to mention the sociological pressure of her "biological clock running out"... regardless of how untrue that may be.

I am, however, a bit concerned that she wants you to quit your job to be with her... and that she wants to settle down only after a year. I'm not saying that a year isn't enough, but I would definitely want to take another year or two to get to know each other, etc.

Best of luck, bud. Let me know how things pan out.

Lol It looks like you don't need anyone to answer your question. You seem to have answered it yourself lol. But I think you are doing a good thing by waiting. The more you know about each other the better off you two will be in the long run. I think she wants to marry so fast because 1. Don't all woman? 2. She loves you. And 3. She's 28 and probably wants to start the baby train. But I'd have to agree with you that a couple more years before marriage would be a good thing for your relationship.
Good luck to you and I hope you have a happy and prosperous life together! :)

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A year is to soon to plan a life, but another year would be perfect to assess the relationship, and see how well you communicate, and work together.

Telling a 28 year old woman she has to wait 2 more years is potential relationship suicide, not that I think you should get married yet, either.

This is a tough call, but it's your call. Maybe you can take off the time limit off.

Hey guys yeah I spoke with her, I told her that I do want to be with her but I feel that we need more time to really get to know each other, I don't want to put a time limit on things but I know, we will know when the time is right, and just spend the time finding out about each other and just enjoying ourselves.

She told me she agrees and said she is not going anywhere as long as we are together.

So I hope things goes well,

Thanks for the help guys :)

Regards

Right on.

Glad things worked out. But you guys already live together and are "still getting to know each other"?

I agree that insisting she wait 2 more years when you are already living together is a bad idea. If you don't know her by now, I don't think you are going to know her any better in a year or two. If it's about not wanting to start a family, talk about THAT.

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I agree that insisting she wait 2 more years when you are already living together is a bad idea. If you don't know her by now, I don't think you are going to know her any better in a year or two. If it's about not wanting to start a family, talk about THAT.

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Thanks asking... maybe your just not ready for marriage... you have to get to the root of what's going on

I think it's good that you talked to her and expressed how you felt. You know when the time is right and when that time come you will ask her. I hope your last and it works out.

Don't tell her to wait for 2 more years, just tell her you aren't ready-
What if you decide here in 6 months that you have changed your mind?


"Love: a temporary insanity, curable by marriage."
Ambrose Bierce-

He already had a talk with her about it and they both agreed to wait and will stay together. It's on the first page.