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  • Sep 16, 2008, 01:58 PM
    Sweet_Guy23
    Why is it that I haven't had a long lasting relationship yet?
    Through my experience with falling in love. The relationships that I have experienced never lasted long at all because the girl that I fell in for started feeling like she really loved me then through time they changed and eventually fall off.

    I've only fell in love with only 3 people. I am 23yrs old. You know? I mean I am a down-to-earth guy who likes to have fun, see places, likes the finer things in life. I am intelligent, talented, respectful, and a gentleman. Not a bad looking guy either. Maybe I fall in love too quickly instead of giving it time? IDK! I just don't understand why I haven't had a relationship that has lasted longer than several months!

    Maybe I am just falling for the wrong type of females or what? The thing in common about the 3 females that I did fall in love with were all between the age of 18-21.

    So how do I know when I am really in Love with someone and how do I know when someone is in Love with me for real? Not infactuation!! HELP ME!! :(
  • Sep 16, 2008, 02:19 PM
    ylaira
    In a nutshell, just haven't found yet the one for you.

    We all know that loves doesn't really conquer all and life isn't a fairy tale. Everyone has flaws, it takes a loving person to accept that without being dumb. It also takes a mature, understanding and patient person too to be and last in a healthy relationship.

    Just the right time, right outlook, right person and right reasons
  • Sep 16, 2008, 03:06 PM
    HeadsHigh
    Agreeing 100% with ylaira here. Your only 23 would you really like to meet your life partner right now? There's loads of time for that, this time is your time. Use it to become a well rounded individual. Experience what life has to offer with an open mind and the right girl will rear her pretty head when you least expect it!
  • Sep 16, 2008, 03:24 PM
    bigbird213
    Sounds to me like your doing exactly what you need to do... You date various people until you find someone that you like and want to stay in a longer, more serious, relationship with. Its certainly better than staying with someone with whom you are not compatible for the sake of having a relationship... trust me.
  • Sep 16, 2008, 03:24 PM
    TrueFaith
    Your 23 man. True some people find the right person by then, others do not until much later just relax and enjoy yourself, you have to understand this you are no the problem here. You are just not meeting the right people,

    Once you do nothing you can do can push them away ;)

    Enjoy yourself don't wear your heart on your slive too much

    Regards
  • Sep 16, 2008, 03:31 PM
    ylaira
    There's nothing wrong with you so quit comparing yourself.

    It doesn't hurt to improve yourself though.
  • Sep 16, 2008, 07:29 PM
    LivingtheLifeinFLA
    23 - Girls between 18 and 25 are the problem, they don't know what they want. At that age there are a few who have their act together but it is few and far between.

    What's the hurry to be in a relationship? Chill and enjoy life with yourself or someone else if the right one comes.

    Most relationships end, so if you bang your head against the wall asking why, maybe it's time to not ask why!
  • Sep 16, 2008, 07:35 PM
    Sweet_Guy23
    Mm... I hear you
  • Sep 16, 2008, 07:44 PM
    Aliboosh
    When your in love you will know because you will feel like you've "come home" and the other person will feel the same.
  • Sep 22, 2008, 12:51 PM
    talaniman

    You haven't found her yet, but you will. Got high standards, huh??

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