Do you ever here from them again, especially if they know they have hurt you?

I am just supprised that someone can be so into another, then ripp their heart out without caring?

My ex regrets forcing me to leave him. For the past three years he has tried to get back with me. He ripped my heart out and stomped on it because he chose drugs over his daughter and I. Well, now that he is off them he is trying to get us back, but we are taken by another now. Exs are exs for a reason. I know that it hurts right now, but the best thing that you can do now is to try to move on and find someoen who really loves you.

My ex regrets breaking up with me, she has stated it numerous times. I simply write it off now, the first time she brought it up was when she found out I was dating someone else. And my friend gave me the best advice I've received about it, "She should have been there months ago with open arms and honest face" My ex and I are now friends and she will periodically bring up the past and how we used to do stuff. I don't think much of it and go about my business. Her breaking up with me was the best thing to ever happen to me

Far as I know all my exes were glad to get rid of my azz!

My ex saw me after 2 years and said he still thinks about me. He regrets us breaking up. It was mutual and we both had good reasons. Now we are really good friends and talk to each other all the time.

Some of the best friendships start of relationships.

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Originally Posted by falloutguy

I am just supprised that someone can be so into another, then ripp their heart out without caring?

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It's statements like that ARE part of the problem. Although that may occasionally happen the way you posited, usually it's far from that.

People care without control. It just happens. You just like someone, the just like you back and you two decide to take a shot. At that moment you finally get actively involved... and it will either work out or it won't... usually won't.

The "ripping your heart out" part is misleading. Once you realize you don't care to stay with a person for 60 years... you have to end it. The other person hasn't made that decision yet, so your honesty "rips their heart out".

It's an immature but completely understandable statement. "She ripped my heart out." But to be fair, it's just as accurate to say, "She knew before I did we wouldn't work out for a lifetime, she decided first and it was a surprise to me, so it will take me longer to get over it than her since she started before me."

But who thinks like that? :P

My ex regrets breaking up with me, then he doesn't, the he does, then he doesn't, etc etc. He calls when he wonders what I am doing, and who I am with. He has a sixth sense, when I am happy and moving on, and haven't thought about him in a while. He calls, or messages, or shows up at my work. It's a game to him. He doesn't want me if he can have me, but if he thinks he can't have me... he calls... I tell him I love him and miss him and that I wish we could be togther. Then he disappears for a few weeks, then checks up again. The truth is that I am happy, I do not miss him, and that I am dating! :) Shhhh don't tell :)

How long as it been since you broke up? How long were you togther? And how long has it been since you have had contact?

I'm not sure but my ex broke up with me a month ago and now sends me a text message with a picture of us and a heading that says"Where did we go wrong"? I don't even want to deal with it.

My girlfriend hasn't spoken to me in 3 weeks after 4.5 years, I'll let you know how that goes lol.

I have had a few Xs wanting me back..

After they have left me..

But I have always told them no
Because the reason why we split up.. will happen again..

There is always a reason.

Im not saying 2nd chances are not there. But.. in many cases

Why move back.. when you can move forward

How many people get back with a person that breaks up with them? Of course it depends on what happened for the breakup and how long its been and all. But do most people just move on after getting dumped. I got dumped after about 3 years, moved on and met the girl who just broke up with me after 3.5 years, except the first girl did some messed up things that I would never forgive. For the second relationship, I am still at the point where I think id get back with her if "from taking her time" she realized I was the one, but it would all depend on how long I'm assuming. I'm already trying to move on and have been in no contact, but it hasn't even been a week

I just broke up with my ex- its been 2.5 months, we were to be married and I found out he was cheating and then just left, just like that and moved in with the girl he met. I often wondered that as well- if he ever regrets it I will let you know...

No one today is willing to work on a relationship it is just easier to label it to difficult to deal with and out the door they go . Why should you consider working it out , because those who do not embrace the past are doomed to repeat it . What it means is you just keep making the same mistakes over and over again and just keep thinking "OH SHE WAS NOT THE RIGHT ONE FOR ME " when the truth is unless there was some what of a extreme circumstance such as abuse or dependency or just a major difference in lifestyle anything can be worked on as long as there is LOVE . The key word in all of this is Work,, work on your relationships , don't run from them, if you reject this idea you may find yourself later in life regretting letting someone go and face the prospect of being alone or worse being with someone who also has major regrets and baggage .
Love is the most noble cause there is , it is worth the work you just have to realize it before it is too late .