I love this girl,we are friends since 9 years,I used to be her very close friend from 4th grade,9 years have passed,few months back,we were kind of falling in love with each other,she told me one night that she had feelings for me,then I also told her what I was feeling for her inside my heart,it all became good and we started a relationship,the relationship was fine till one month,we were enjoying but suddenly one day she told me that she can not continue with me anymore and she ended the relation without any reason saying that there is no future,although there was a future for us,after that she was talking to me but less,then she became allright though before that I tried a lot to make her stay with me,I told her I loved her a lot but she said that she was guilty but she don't want to continue anymore,then after few weeks she became allright,we started talking,I planned in my heart that one day I;m going to get her.. Now I'm going to Sydney on 26th sept,I told this first to my other friend who was also her friend,she told her that he is going to sydney,when the girl I love talked to me,she was pissed off that why didn't you tell me and all that,she started a fight,she told me that you have new friends and I'm not important to you then she told me that I kept her my friend to give her orders and treat her as a kid,that was totally wrong,I loved her,then she said that I dun want to be friends with u.. U always hurt me baq.. this is finally over.. I don't believe myself saying this but yes it is! I dunt want you to be a part of my life ever! No matter how much I miss you or how much I regret making this decision.. just please leave me alone.. I can make new friends myself! These are exactly her words..
She said this and stopped talking to me,I even told her that I loved her and she is thinking wrong,she means a lot to me,she is really special but she didn't stop,she blocked me on msn,deleted my on Facebook and orkut and told me not to message or call her if I have some importance for her in my life...
I can contact her through my friends and her sister but I want your suggestion...
I really love her a lot seriously,I want her back I love her,what should I do,help me please !

Wow, I hate to say it, but she sounds pissed. It's going to be really hard to get her back. It sounds like she was initially pissed at you because she had to find out from a mutual friend that you were moving. Big mistake. Were you going to tell her and your friend just got to her first? Or did you want the friend to tell her?

In my opinion, find a way to let her know that you are thinking about her and are sorry. Then give her some time, but keep checking up on her to let her know that you still care. Then try setting up a date to see each other. If she won't see you then let her know how you feel and how you wish things would be. Be honest with her. I'm sure she is definitely reacting from the fact that you are moving. She sees it as not getting to see you as often so she might be thinking that she should just end it now so she doesn't get hurt in the long run. But I think, if this is the way she is thinking, what she did may have been a little harsh.

Good luck, I think you are going to need it. If nothing else, hope that you can still be friends. I know you love her, but maybe friendship is all she can handle. Keep in mind how she feels too. If she is adamint about not have a relationship, then try to be friends. Maybe it can grow into a relationship (but don't tell her that is your intention because then she may be against it). I value my friendships just like I value my family. I am still friends with my ex's (not sure how I accomplished that... ) because I would rather have friends than enemies. See if she will still be friends with you if nothing else.

Good luck!

Grammar 101 is the first place to start, cause if you write her a letter, you can't go on without decent English.

Otherwise, I may be out on a limb, but she may have external influences telling her to leave you. Like parents or other friends or somebody else, they might have scared her away from you because of age or something else. Either that, or she thinks you've done something really really bad and won't discuss it with anyone. Or she has another guy, but that is more doubtful.

You may simply have to accept this for now, let things cool off, break contact and let time heal a few wounds. At some point, you can write to her, and be as calm and caring as you can, tell her about a few major issues, and clear up anything you have in your own head. Don't start any fights. Tell her she can talk to you about it whenever she wants, tell her you always cared and never meant to hurt her if that is the problem. Tell her you really want to know why the relationship failed.
Sometimes even telling a person you love them can be scary and will make them run. Maybe she got scared that it was too serious? What man knows the heart of a woman?

I would suggest letting it cool off, your last words should be that you are sorry for anything that might have upset her, that is not what you wanted, and that you care deeply for her (perhaps avoid saying "love" for now) and will talk any time. And then wait on her. Don't attack her like a desperate hound dog, put the ball in her court and see what she does with it. Let he think things through as well, because it sounds like she's being hasty. Then use this time to really think about it yourself.
Puppy love that grows in childhood does not always make it. Boys and girls brains are not fully developed until in their 20s, you may simply not have been meant to take the relationship into an adult environment. So meditate on how you really feel during this time.
Either she will come back to you and realize what she's missing, or she will run off with someone else, and you can't change that. Rather she do it now, then cheat on you later.

Let things cool, leave on good terms, humble yourself and be apologetic.


Good luck!

Leave her alone, and that goes for her friends, and relatives also. You have done enough, and now its up to her. If she doesn't get in touch with you, don't get in touch with her. Trust me, anything you do now will put your dignity, and self respect at risk, so let it go, and rebuild your own life without her in it.

Don't turn into an emotional puppy.