Ask Me Help Desk - To be or not to be?

I met this girl a couple months ago and we immediately hit if off. We hung out once or twice and decided that we should start dating. It worked out only for about 2 weeks lol. She wasn't sure if she wanted to be in a relationship and I was feeling some other emotions. Since then her and I have become really good friends, hanging out every couple days. We have so much fun together but lately we are unsure of how we feel about each other. We are more than friends but we don't date. We call it "flirty friends". The last time we hung out we started talking about the possibility of dating again and we weren't sure about it, we want it to work but there are certain things that are holding each of us back. So I asked if I could kiss her and I did and she told me that she had never felt anything like that in her entire life before. We have a great connection and great chemistry but I know it takes more than that to have a successful relationship. Sometimes we argue about very stupid and petty things because we are both stubborn people. It's a very weird situation that I have never been in before and Im not really sure what to do. Should I try to make this work? Or should I hold back and just be friends?

This isn't a weird situation. It's two normal people experiencing normal emotions and trying make normal decisions about stepping through the relationship hoops.

You're not sure what to do... stay friends or go for more? Well, welcome to the human race. That's the nature of every mature choice... do one thing or the other and live with the results.

Neither option is right nor wrong. And this isn't weird. It's all perfectly routine. Sorry.

Only you can flip this particular coin, and only you can work it through. You haven't described anything here that actually qualifies as an "issue"... except maybe wishy-washyness.

So, flip a coin if you can't man-up your own choice. You'll be fine.

This sounds like puppy love. Ah young love is so endearing. Go for it! But just make sure that whatever happens you guys make a pact to never get to a point where you hate each other or when it stops being fun and fruitful.

Sounds like you might have rushed in the first time, and now that you have developed some substance you guys are actually starting a relationship. Sounds wonderful, don't waste this chance at someone that might be right for you.

What's wrong with just being friends for 6 months, and have fun getting to know each other beyond the physical intense "chemistry".

Then you can revisit the idea of being exclusive. There is no hurry for anything at this point, and maybe balancing things out with something other than each other, can help keep things in perspective, and you both out of trouble.

Intense feelings can be a great thing, or it can be a bad idea when handled the wrong way. Don't be confused, just be sure.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Whats wrong with just being friends for 6 months, and have fun getting to know each other beyond the physical intense "chemistry".

Then you can revisit the idea of being exclusive. There is no hurry for anything at this point, and maybe balancing things out with something other than each other, can help keep things in perspective, and you both out of trouble.

Intense feelings can be a great thing, or it can be a bad idea when handled the wrong way. Don't be confused, just be sure.

Good idea, we came to the conclusion the other night that we are"intimate friends". So we both decided to actually be friends for a little and we really want to get to know each other on a deep level. So that's what we are going to do.