Hi everyone, I've been seeing this guy for about 6 months and I really like him, the sex is GREAT but he's always initiating sex, because I lost my virginity to him I still feel shy when it comes to that I would love to be able to initiate sex but I just don't have the confidence I don't even know how and I don't wona make a fool out of myself. Any advise?

This isn't about shy or not shy. If you're having sex with your boyfriend, they whole shy thing is pretty "water under the bridge", isn't it?

Hello! I mean, what's LESS shy than taking your clothes off and sticking your parts into each other?

So, take a few breaths and kiss your boyfriend passionately once before he kisses you first. That's all it is. Reaching over and kissing HIM doesn't count? Of course it does!

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Originally Posted by JBeaucaire

This isn't about shy or not shy. If you're having sex with your boyfriend, they whole shy thing is pretty "water under the bridge", isn't it?

Hello!? I mean, what's LESS shy than taking your clothes off and sticking your parts into each other?

So, take a few breaths and kiss your boyfriend passionately once before he kisses you first. That's all it is. Reaching over and kissing HIM doesn't count? Of course it does!

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I didn't say he's my man I said we've been seeing each other for a few months but your right its not about being shy I just don't have a lot of self confidence but I need to get over it because its not a big deal.

Hello B:

Men love it when a girl unzips their pants... I don't mean at the grocery store, but when you're alone sometimes.

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Talk to him about it. He'll help you initiate. That way, If you try, and feel shy, you will have his understanding. Then the process is fun, just between the two of you.