Yeah, it's me again. I'm still having issues with this breakup, it's been close to two months now, and I barely feel better. I can at least function at work and not cry all the time, but that isn't a big improvement, I still do many times.

I was told at first to date as many women as possible, I did this, but I didn't feel any better. They were a bit below my standards, that may have been part of the reason. I'm not really sure, maybe its because I'm not over her. Anyway, I stopped dating and going out with other girls. The other night I went with another one, and it ended up with her crying because I couldn't go through with things, because I said I loved her.

My ex hasn't contacted me in at least a month, and only for mandatory purposes and questions, not to see how I am or anything. I was the one who ruined it and made her feel like garbage, so I can see why. Even my fake accident barely sparked a reaction from her. I am a logical person in most cases, but when it comes to the human brain I am open to anything.

I believe that it is possible to change a persons mind on something, especially in this situation. I believe that it is completely possible, some how, some way. I don't believe this is so black and white that when its over its over. I think that there has to be some way that I can work it out with this girl one day.

I want to ask you all, how do you suggest I start talking to her again? I really don't know what to say or how to act. I want to slowly ween myself back into her life again, hopefully re-attract her and maybe with a little luck work things out with her. Any ideas on how I can start proactively attempting to get her back?

I know the probability of this working is slim, and I know what I'm getting into. I couldn't care less about anything anymore really, I have nothing to lose. No matter how many people nay say me, I will continue on, even if it leads me no where. I made a promise to her a long time ago she asked that I wouldn't give up on us, I won't. I cant.

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Originally Posted by High Max

Yeah, it's me again. I'm still having issues with this breakup, it's been close to two months now, and I barely feel better. I can atleast function at work and not cry all the time, but that isnt a big improvement, I still do many times.

I was told at first to date as many women as possible, I did this, but I didn't feel any better. They were a bit below my standards, that may have been part of the reason. I'm not really sure, maybe its because im not over her. Anyway, I stopped dating and going out with other girls. The other night I went with another one, and it ended up with her crying because I couldn't go through with things, because I said I loved her.

My ex hasn't contacted me in atleast a month, and only for mandatory purposes and questions, not to see how I am or anything. I was the one who ruined it and made her feel like garbage, so I can see why. Even my fake accident barely sparked a reaction from her. I am a logical person in most cases, but when it comes to the human brain I am open to anything.

I believe that it is possible to change a persons mind on something, especially in this situation. I believe that it is completely possible, some how, some way. I don't believe this is so black and white that when its over its over. I think that there has to be some way that I can work it out with this girl one day.

I want to ask you all, how do you suggest I start talking to her again? I really dont know what to say or how to act. I want to slowly ween myself back into her life again, hopefully re-attract her and maybe with a little luck work things out with her. Any ideas on how I can start proactively attempting to get her back?

I know the probability of this working is slim, and I know what im getting into. I could care less about anything anymore really, I have nothing to lose. No matter how many people nay say me, I will continue on, even if it leads me no where. I made a promise to her a long time ago she asked that I wouldn't give up on us, I wont. I cant.

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Stop sweating it give her the space that she needs. In order for her to feel like you're the man she need and love she needs time to think and you need to think too on how to not mess it up again and eventually you and her will be happy again don't ever give up though cause then you might lose her forever just give her time

I'm afraid to say this, but you are delusional, my friend. The reason you haven't felt better after 2 month is because you have yet to let go of false hope. There is NOTHING you can do to change her mind. You even stooped as low as to create a fake accident. How cruel is that? I suggest you seek some therapy for your situation.

There has to be SOMETHING, saying the right things, doing the right things at the right time.. even maybe little mind teasers that get her thinking of me again. You must agree that there could be some way, some how?

Are you being serious with yourself? You REALLY want to manipulate someone into liking you? You would rather live the rest of your days knowing the person doesn't TRULY feel for you and is only with you because you tricked them into it? What kind of a life is that? You need to sit long and hard about realty.

Yes, I'm afraid I would. This was the only gorgeous girl who has ever shown interest in me, I can't let this happen.

Dude... you shouldn't categorise this girl in her own league because she's attractive..
Sure, it's harder to attract a girl that's very attractive when you're out there and "back in the game".. but you shouldn't let ANY attractive girl intimidate you so much because she got lucky in the gene pool...
It's shallow to seek attractiveness, but if that's what you want then go out there and "play the field".. You mentioned them being "below a certain level' - sure if your basis of comparison is your ex girlfriends hotness...YES it DOUBLE SUCKS when you get dumped AND she's super hot...well boo-hoo..
Theres so many girls out there..and women have SENSORS..if you're going out there and putting pressure on yourself that you have to find a woman that equals your ex, then ANY woman you talk to is going to sense this weakness in you..You're sounding desperate, and the only reason you want to go back to it and youre craving attention from her(in a ridiculous fashion may I had - fake accident?) is because you haven't replaced her with an equally hot girl..
I'm never the hottest guy in the room, but I have enough confidence in myself and what makes me WHO I AM - to go up to the hottest girl in the room, and chat her up - get her number - and I usually end it there because MOST of the "hottest girls in the room" are shallow bricks who can't hold a conversation over 10 minutes.
So get out of your misery loop of whining, and start living...

I suggest you seriously seek speaking to a professional if you were to go to the lengths of faking a accident to get her attention. I think you would benefit from it. To be honest looks are not what is going to make a relationship work.

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I want to ask you all, how do you suggest I start talking to her again?

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We don't, but you don't care, right?

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I don't believe this is so black and white that when its over its over. I think that there has to be some way that I can work it out with this girl one day.

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Well, then there's no hope for this situation. Nobody here who's read your other stuff will legitimately tell you to keep after it. So...

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I know the probability of this working is slim, and I know what I'm getting into. I couldn't care less about anything anymore really, I have nothing to lose. No matter how many people nay say me, I will continue on, even if it leads me no where.

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OK, so even you actually believe this is a waste of time. OK, then. I hope you don't waste too much time on this, but it IS your time to waste. Good luck.

Ok, this is going to sound real uncaring, but I have read your other posts with your opinions of women and relationship.
To be honest unless you buy a bride from China I doubt you are ready for a real relationship with any modern women, I guess there may and is someone for everyone but I am sorry your real choices are few for what you expect and seem to want.

You tried to lie and trick her into coming back, so don't ever expect her back, and there lies the real issue, you are still wanting and expecting and planning and ploting to get her back, No contact is suppose to be the time you get over them, and stop wanting them back so you can move on.
Not a time to jump in bed and sleep with as many as you can either though. It is a time to know that you can move on without her.

So while from your posts you need counseling on so many levels, you may need help getting over this if after this time you are still dwelling on it, to that point you are.

I'm sorry that I keep posting this drivel, I'm sure nobody wants to hear it anymore. I don't really know what a psychologist can do for me. I came home today and burst into tears, and have been since about 2:30 until now, which is about 5:00.

I want to make things right so bad with her. I don't even have the desire to want to move on or live without her. I don't even care if I'm alive to be honest. The only thing that has prevented me from committing suicide, which has popped into my head times before, is my fear that there may be no afterlife. This is the closest anything has ever pushed me, and I'm scared.

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Originally Posted by High Max

I'm sorry that I keep posting this drivel, im sure nobody wants to hear it anymore. I don't really know what a psychologist can do for me. I came home today and burst into tears, and have been since about 2:30 until now, which is about 5:00.

I want to make things right so bad with her. I don't even have the desire to want to move on or live without her. I don't even care if im alive to be honest. The only thing that has prevented me from committing suicide, which has popped into my head times before, is my fear that there may be no afterlife. This is the closest anything has ever pushed me, and im scared.

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You need to go talk to someone. Seriously. Those thoughts are not right, you need to go talk to someone.

I don't know if I can afford these services, and I don't want to put it on my parents..

Isn't you mental well being worth it? Seriously you need to some help don't take it as a weakness. People need help sometimes we all do.

If she doesn't want you , she won't. No matter how much you try and you are going to push her away even more. If you are serious about getting back together, let her have her space for awhile. And maybe it could help.

Also love yourself first, she can probably see how insecure you are. Help yourself first and I promise you will feel a lot better about yourself and life and she may too.

Healing cannot begin until you accept that its over. You still have not let go, so do yourself a real favor and let it go. Geez, she broke it off 2 months ago, and your still doing monkey flips.

Maybe a trusted older adult, or a church leader, can give you some guidance, and talking to your father would be your next options.

Wow, I just read some of your previous posts.

Dude... you need help. Professional help. At the very least you need to express all the feelings you have told us with your close friends and family if you have not done so. The only thing that can help you recover is a very strong network of people to comfort you.

Also, to be honest... you are scaring me a bit. And I am a little scared for your ex. I would be fearful for anyone who had an ex obsessed with them, plotting and scheming ways to get them back at any means possible. If you care for her, let her go! It's DONE!

How old are you?

Im 21.