Hey everyone, just a quick question for you...

About a week ago I was supposed to be set up with this girl at a local pub. Now I didn't know I was supposed to be, my friends told me the next day after we didn't make it there in time. Anyway it got me interested so I asked who it was and they told me and I didn't know her. I was told a lot about her though and she seems like quite the girl, so I am pretty excited to meet her. And I heard through my friends girlfriend that they gave her a tour of my Facebook and told her about me and she acted very interested... Problem though, the opportunity to meet again is pretty bleak. She rarely ever hangs out with my friend girlfriend and doesn't go out to bars very much. (which to me is a good quality)

Anyway here's the question... If I sent her a simple Facebook message just saying hi and who I was would that be bad. There is just really no other way for me to get in contact with her... Its seems pretty high school I know but I really don't think I have any other options... For myself, if I had interest in someone and they did that I would be happy they did, but I guess I want some other opinions... And I even think that making a bit of contact through the internet might help when it comes to meeting in real life.

Thanks for the answers.

-NNG

I don't see any problem with dropping her a line on FaceBook. In the age of texts, email and MySpace, it is probably more common that you think. Perhaps ask for her number in the message so you can then call her?

Hey everyone, just a quick question for you...

About a week ago I was supposed to be set up with this girl at a local pub. Now I didn't know I was supposed to be, my friends told me the next day after we didn't make it there in time. Anyway it got me interested so I asked who it was and they told me and I didn't know her. I was told a lot about her though and she seems like quite the girl, so I am pretty excited to meet her. And I heard through my friends girlfriend that they gave her a tour of my Facebook and told her about me and she acted very interested... Problem though, the opportunity to meet again is pretty bleak. She rarely ever hangs out with my friend girlfriend and doesn't go out to bars very much.

Anyway here's the question... If I sent her a simple Facebook message just saying hi and who I was would that be bad. There is just really no other way for me to get in contact with her... Its seems pretty high school I know but I really don't think I have any other options... For myself, if I had interest in someone and they did that I would be happy they did, but I guess I want some other opinions... And I even think that making a bit of contact through the internet might help when it comes to meeting in real life.

Thanks for the answers.

-NNG

I'd say there's nothing wrong with it... but to be honest - if she's "a catch" I doubt it would do you any good.. i.e you might come off as a bit desperate :/
I'd say keep the highschoolness going another way - just tell your friends to set up another date, but for you to pretend that you still know nothing about it...
Interacting via Facebook will be all right to begin with, but then you'll go into the phase of "ok so do you wanna meet up whenever? - sure blablabla".. and I dno it just comes off as a bit desperate for me.. I dno its your call.. wouldnt hurt if it's a last resort though

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I'd say theres nothing wrong with it...but to be honest - if she's "a catch" I doubt it would do you any good.. i.e you might come off as a bit desperate :/
I'd say keep the highschoolness going another way - just tell your friends to set up another date, but for you to pretend that you still know nothing about it...
Interacting via facebook will be alright to begin with, but then you'll go into the phase of "ok so do you wanna meet up whenever? - sure blablabla" ..and I dno it just comes off as a bit desperate for me..I dno its your call..wouldnt hurt if its a last resort though

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Yea, I really would rather prefer meet her in person... But it seems like another meeting isn't in the works for awhile... My friend's girlfriend isn't very good friends with this girl at all and the only reason she was with this girl is because she was with one of her good friends who is friends with her (does that sound confusing?) Anyway this other girl is not allowed to hangout with me because her boyfriend seems to think I am a threat. She came over with a group of friends one night and lied to him about where she was going so he seems to think there is something going on... not at all though. So that's the big reason I don't think I will get a chance, at least anytime soon. Trust me at 23 I would prefer not to do it this way, but I just don't want an opportunity to pass me by... I would keep the message light and admit to how funny it was that it was over Facebook but thought I would just introduce myself...

That sound OK?

So, wait. She has a boyfriend, but you are trying to pursue her anyway?

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So, wait. She has a boyfriend, but you are trying to pursue her anyway?

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Haha I knew it was confusing... no, the girl who is really good friends with her, that I would need to get her to come out has a boyfriend... and her boyfriend does not want her hanging out with me over something stupid...

Hi, NNG, I have been following your posts and you seem to have your head on right and at times with some pretty good advice.

In answer to your post, I would say you have a pretty good idea about contacting through Facebook, so go for it. You two lining up probably isn't going to happen any other way. Good luck !

Not only does she have a boyfriend,& you're trying to pursue her,which is VERYwrong,there's more...

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She came over with a group of friends one night and lied to him about where she was going so he seems to think there is something going on...

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And so he would,as he could trust his girlfriend [or so he thought!! ]

Apart from the fact that she already has a boyfriend (and is already "spoken for")
Would you honestly want her,when she can lie (and betray someone's trust in her)?

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Not only does she have a boyfriend,& you're trying to pursue her,which is VERYwrong,there's more.....



And so he would,as he could trust his girlfriend [or so he thought!!!]

Apart from the fact that she already has a boyfriend (and is already "spoken for")
would you honestly want her,when she can lie (and betray someone's trust in her)?

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I re-read what I wrote and it really doesn't seem that confusing..! The girl I am interested in DOES NOT HAVE A BOYFRIEND!! A girl who knows her well, a girl who would have to set us up has a boyfriend... And her boyfriend does not want her hanging out with me because of her stupid lie (why she lied is beyond me). Therefore if this other girl cannot hangout with me, how am I supposed to get set-up with the girl I am interested in. (WHO IS SINGLE)

Hope that clears things up a bit.

Just forget I said anything about the other girl then. The fact is that chances are I won't have another opportunity to meet the girl I am interested in (who is single) so would a light Facebook message be all right...

I see. I don't see how a message on Facebook could be bad, and eventually after a couple messages get her number. If if your chances are slim, you want to be able to admit to yourself that you at least tried, right? If she doesn't respond ir isn't interested, at least you can go on living knowing the answer.

Thanks brew, yea that's what I figured, I have nothing to lose, and if it doesn't work out then at least I won't have that "what if" on my mind... I'll let you know how it goes...

Thanks tickle, I figured I would give it a shot, there is really nothing to lose. We'll see what happens and I'll let you know. Thanks again.

Ok, except for the part where you were meeting in the pub yes the post sounds Jr High, why can't you get hold of her, if your friends friend knows her, get her phone number from them?? And just call her, or if you have to email her from the Facebook, what the heck but say more than hi, say you are the guy that she was suppose to meet and you still would like to meet. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

What's wrong with being "highschool"?
Lol (I am 16)

I would say Facebook is a good way to introduce yourself, but it is kind of impersonal... Do you have her phone number?

As someone else already mentioned, contacting people via social networking sites is quite common these days. In fact, that is part of the reason why sites like Facebook exists!

Do it :)! I'm excited for you !

I can see nothing wrong with using technology to broaden your circle, just don't go falling in love with a computer image, or whatever it is. I think if your practical and realistic, and know when to leave it alone, then why not??

You young guys don't know how lucky you are. Enjoy!

Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Go for it :)