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  • Sep 11, 2008, 10:00 PM
    Hygoog
    Relationship: asian guys with white girls
    Hey I'm an asian guy and I really like white girls ,but somehow they never like me back. I think its just because I went for the stuck up ones, but I don't know. I'm really confused. It really sucks being an asian guy because the first thing a white girl thinks when an asian guy go up to talk to her is, "what does this guy want? or wierdo..." my ex was white and peurto rican. We were kind of together for 3 years until she got what she wants from me and screw me over for another guy. She always made me feel like . She said that I'm ugly and don't have blonde hair or blue eyes. That really hurt my feelings. I know I'm not perfect. I'm only human after all. Please someone help me... T-T:(
  • Sep 11, 2008, 10:16 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    First of all, not all white girls do not like you. You just haven't found the right one. I've learned that stop looking is when you find what you want.

    Second of all, don't limit yourself to only white girls. Get to know girls of many different backgrounds and let their personality be your deciding factor.
  • Sep 11, 2008, 10:19 PM
    ylaira
    I don't know what kind of asian are you, oriental, malay or middle eastern. I belong to the malay race but anyway, I have this feeling that they find asians studious and weird.

    You know its not that common seeing asian male-white female couple. Aside from "The King & I" (Jodie Foster/Chow Yun Fat) or "Kiss of the Dragon" (Jet Li/Bridget Fonda), can you name other movie that starred asian-white couple?

    Just don't take it personally. Its not you, it''s just you are new to them and you have to work harder to break the norms. ChihuahuaMomma is right, not all white girls won't like you. You just have to find the right one regardless of the race.
  • Sep 11, 2008, 10:21 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    I disagree, I see asians with caucasian partners all the time.
  • Sep 11, 2008, 10:22 PM
    ylaira
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma
    I disagree, I see asians with caucasian partners all the time.


    But it's the guy that is white (like me & my beau). I rarely see asian guy white gal here.
  • Sep 11, 2008, 10:23 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    I see that all the time here. Perhaps its just the location. I live in Portland metro. So there are lots of people here, and nothing is taboo and people tend to accept everyone as they are. This is a very liberal free-spirited area.
  • Sep 11, 2008, 10:28 PM
    ylaira
    See, hygoog? Don't be negative.
  • Sep 11, 2008, 10:34 PM
    Wondergirl
    Let me see. My doctor is Chinese and is married to a beautiful blond Caucasian woman who gave him five children. The county probation officer who sends offenders to me for community service is Chinese and is married to a lovely Caucasian brunette. Around Chicago and the suburbs, Asian men are very desirable to Caucasian women who know Asian men are smart, faithful, industrious, and good husbands and fathers.

    Get to know many young women from any and every culture and race. Meanwhile, get to know yourself too, so you will be happy inside your own skin and will value who you are. When you value yourself, others will value you too.

    Best wishes.
  • Sep 11, 2008, 10:36 PM
    ISneezeFunny
    I think I've dated girls from every single ethnicity I can imagine... caucasian, african american, hispanic, asian, middle eastern (yes... asian, but... diff category, I guess), etc.

    It's not the color of the skin, but the personality.

    EDIT: I'm also an asian guy... and an equal opportunity dater
  • Sep 11, 2008, 10:41 PM
    ISneezeFunny
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ylaira
    BTW, ISneezeFunny is asian too.

    Chyeah I am :)
  • Sep 11, 2008, 10:42 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    My best friend is Phillipino and usually dates white girls.
  • Sep 11, 2008, 10:46 PM
    ISneezeFunny
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl
    If only I were 21 again............

    And I say over and over again...

    Age is nothing but a number ;)

    (that is... of course, unless you're under 18)
  • Sep 11, 2008, 10:48 PM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    I agree. Age shouldn't have a bearing on dating limits as long as the two are both consenting adults.
  • Sep 12, 2008, 03:37 AM
    nickshehe
    I'm not asian but I've got a couple of caucasian (girl friends) who can't stop drooling over asian men.. if that helps at all :D

    Obviously race doesn't matter but it just goes to show that some girls actually prefer asian guys.
  • Sep 12, 2008, 04:56 AM
    talaniman
    If at first you don't succeed...................keep looking! Don't be stopped by a few who reject you, for whatever reason, that's their problem. Keep the mind open though, for all other possibilities. You never know what you like until you try it.
  • Sep 12, 2008, 07:25 PM
    Hygoog
    Its going to be hard but imma try my best. I think its because I always end up talking to the stuck up ones. I remember talking to this girl called chelsea, she's a brunette and very pretty. She gave me her friend's number instead. When I called her friend told me off and said that I should look for an asian girl and hella about me. That's sad... I was hella kind to her too.
  • Sep 12, 2008, 07:35 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Hygoog
    its gonna be hard but imma try my best. i think its because i always end up talking to the stuck up ones. i remember talking to this girl called chelsea, shes a brunette and very pretty. she gave me her friend's number instead. when i called her friend told me off and said that i should look for an asian girl and hella about me. thats sad...i was hella kind to her too.

    Don't look at pretty. Look for shy and quiet and sweet.
  • Sep 12, 2008, 08:08 PM
    talaniman
    Talk to them all, and decide later. What's the freakin' hurry.
  • Sep 12, 2008, 08:44 PM
    Hygoog
    True!
  • Oct 3, 2008, 02:16 AM
    skyliner650
    Hey buddy I stumbled across this thread and I just had to throw in my two cents.
    First off stop being emo.
    Always review everything you do at the end of the day when talking with woman.
    Review your mistakes.
    If she shows no interest then move on.
    Here's a little tip of my personal concepts.

    If I get a girls number, I call her once and if she doesn't answer, I leave a BRIEF message.
    Then I wait 2 days and after that if don't here from her I call one last time and if she doesn't answer, she's probably not inteersted and I move on.

    Second thing, the white women issue.
    U just have to keep experimenting with different socialization techniques.
    But don't just go for caucasian women. Engage with different types of women even if your not interested. It's a great way to build courage and practice your techniques.
    BTW by techniques I don't mean pick up lines.

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