Interesting.being married to someone who is
A drug addict. Then he wonders why I am over weight. So here it goes.. My husband is a drug addict. I knew a bit before we got married 11 years ago. I knew that he used maybe once or twice. It was only until a year or two after being married that I got a grasp of the issue. Now keep in mind we dated for 7 years and I finally told him that we either need to get married or move on. We broke up a couple times when dating and I had found others to date. However every time I did, he must of got jeolous or something, I don't know. He bascially would hang out at my house lots and I remember one time he answered the phone when one of the guys that wanted to ask me out called. Needless to say that guy never called again. Well we did get married, I thought it was great. Then of course years later I found out what really happened on our honeymoon. He hurt his back so when we were on our honeymoon he had to see a doctor for pain pills.. See where I am going with this. I had no idea that is what he was doing, yes I think he hurt his back some but not to the extent of needing pain pills. So the years went by and he used all sorts of things but mostly pain pills. After maybe 2 years into our marriage did I learn it was a huge issue. He has struggled and struggled to stop. Now he has he is on a medication that blocks the opiates. Which is great. However, he never dealt with why he unsed in the first place. He is still depressed. Now---he is unhappy with me because of my weight. I am destroying our relationship, he will tell you. I don't take his feeling into account. I have to worry about him using almost daily. He can still take things like xanax or ritilin. He is hardly a part of the family. He hardly every does anything with my daughter or I. And when he does he doesn't have fun. He doesn't know how to have fun without the drugs. He is grumpy all the time. Well like I said he says I am destroying our marriage for being overweight. Plus the money that's my fault to when he goes and spends whatever and never tells me. Granted he may not spend a lot at once. But just a couple weekes ago he spent $60 on minithins... And he says he has kept himself in shape for me. Well maybe I should become a drug addict. How often do you see an overweight drug addict? Yes I am overweight I would love to lose 50 lbs. It is so hard though. All I know is that after I turned 30 I gained weight. I never had to watch what I ate before. Its just hard.
Anyhow---any advice or just support or comments would be appreciated.. Thanks