My friend is a drug addict how do I ?
One of my best girlfriends, has within the past year turned to coke a lot and drinking on a daily basis. She is never sober, and while having a cocktail is fun, it's gotten out of control. Our friendship because of this has taken a toll, and not just with me, with everyone around her. I've always tried to be the positive friend and stick around, while everyone else has pretty much left her side. But, last night at a BBQ... everything was fun, fine and dandy until out of nowhere she lashed out at me, yelling at me over nothing saying I was disrepectful, a horrible friend to f_ck off etc etc... it was straight up an episode from Jerry Springer. At first I tried to calm her down and talk to her, but she wasn't able to do so in a civilized manner. For the first time, I saw right in front of me the effects of a drug user, not getting their daily or weekly dose. I'm pretty certain this is why she was acting like this.
Of course I lashed back (verbally) and said some pretty mean (but true) stuff to her, because she needed to hear it from someone. All in all, I probably shouldn't have said anything but it came out in the heat of the momement. The night was pretty exhausting. I pretty much told her unless she gets help, I will never talk to her again, and that I've tried to help but now it's on her.
So she's like a sister to me... and I just don't know whether I should get her out of my life for good or what. The problem is I think she realizes she has issues, but when she's drinking or whatever obviously doesn't reealize how bad it is, and how it has affected a lot of us in our once circle of friends. When I try to talk to her about it, she denies it like no other. She doesn't see it. So in a sense, I feel like if I back away - she will see that everyone now has disappeared and maybe it will hit her.
Has anyone ever dealt with this? Do I try to help? Or is it pretty much on her? I seriously gave her my last straw last night and cannot get over the things she said to me. I was doing nothing but hanging out, being a fun friend. I don't need people like her in my life. If she can't recognize the matter.