OK, so the situation is this, me and my ex broke up back in may, a week later she slept with my best mate. For this I called her and him every name under the sun and shamed the pair throughout the school. Her friends all hate me for this and my friends all hate her. In the past she has gone through stages of not knowing what she wanted, then being all over me, then not wnating anything etc. anywhew after the whole drama we got in touch and this last month and a bit we've become very close friends, very flirty still, to the point last week when she found out that I had gotten of with someone in the cast from a show I'm in. my ex didn't like this and got herself all worked up telling me how she'll never fin anyone like me again, how she fell in love with me, how she doenst want me getting with this other girl and regrets sleepiong with my best mate. We both agreed we wished things could be different but the past would ruin any future we could ever hope to have. Since last week she has mesaged me everyday telling me she can't stop thinking about me and when she comes to see my show next week she aske dif it would be bad for her to kiss me as she's going to want to. I said yes it would. My big question is, am I being used here? Is she only syaing all this to prevent me getting with this other girl? Or do you think she has finally woken up to what she has lost. I'm not going to ask what should I do next week as I know the answer I'm going to get... 'go with the flow'. So I want to know, what would you do in this suituation? Would you kiss her, would you see if you two can make a go of things or would stop her from kissing you and tell her you just can't be with her.

All I had to read was the first two lines of your post. Why do u even want to have anything to do with her if she slept w your best friend? Be done with her, and have a big talk with him.

Your right! I've had the talk with him... I say talk, I scared the out of him, and I'm a little guy and he is massive compared to me. Never seen him look so scared. As for her, its tough because I hate her when I think about what she did. But the problem is I still love her.

She's jealous that you are moving on, that's all. If you get back together again it won't be long until she's looking for something better. She just wants what she can't have, and that's you.

If you can handle being friends with her then great, but make it very clear that that's all you want. Friends don't kiss each other passionately.

If you want to get back with her, be prepared to forgive her past mistakes and be prepared for her to do it again.

Good luck.

Yea your right! That's exactly what will happen. After a couple of weeks she wudve gotten bored again and we'll be in the same situation all over again. No more! I am actually a lot happier without her believe it or not.

Are you kidding? She sleeps with your friend, (?) and she gets mad when you do the same. If you like drama, and confusion, she is perfect. Me, I wouldn't waste my time talking to this flake.

Well, I'm speaking from experience. :)

I think you've made a decision, now you just have to stick to it. Easier said then done, I know.

Good luck. :)

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Originally Posted by srulik86

your right! ive had the talk with him...i say talk, i scared the out of him, and im a little guy and he is massive compared to me. never seen him look so scared. as for her, its tough coz i hate her when i think about wat she did. but the porblem is i still love her.

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You might love her, that's fair to say... but you deserve better. A real woman would never do that to her man. Move on... it's not worth your time and energy at the end of the day. She obviously has issues...

Stay. Away. From. Her.

Sneezy's right... Stay away, far away. She doesn't want you to move on because then who's mind would she eff with all the time?