Hi I really need some help and would totally appreciate it. I had been dating this girl for 4 years and we recently broke up a couple of days into college. We said it would just be a break and we would get back together once we got the whole "being free" out of our system. We both agreed we needed space. She has been my life the past 4 years and I care about her so much and want nothing but happiness for her. While here I met a girl who is like no other I have met before. She has had a lot of past relationship traumas whereas I had only been with one person my entire life. We had sex and I've been spending a lot of time with her which I totally enjoy. She makes me feel so... different than my girlfriend... not necessarily better, but different and I like it. I am so confused and have absolutely no idea what to do. I have told her that I just got out of a 4 year relationship. I don't know if I want to just jump into a new thing but I really like getting to know her. I also don't just want to stop and say I can't do this because I like her and then ill be just another terrible person who used her and then bailed. She's a totally cool girl but after 4 years I'm so confused and scared that I can't sleep at night because I'm so worried that I'm going to make the wrong decision and I can't bare to hurt either of them

Please any thoughts would help its really tough to deal with

You're young... These are the dilema's of the young... If we're all lucky enough we all go thru' this at some point or other in our lives.

These girl/boy drama's is what help build our character. You need to think about what works for YOU right now. You said that you'd been in a 4 year relationship and you're confused.. a couple of times! That speaks volumes.

If you enjoy the new girl so much... enjoy her! Why do you have to make a comittment? You'd been dating the ex for 4 years, you'd committed long enough... you've earned a break.

You are going to meet ALL KINDS of amazing girls in college... why do you have to make a comittment w/ everyone you have sex with?

Sex is a lovely expression of passion it doesn't necessarily mean that you need to take it to a level whereas it's decided that "those involved have to become conjoinded at the hip now", LMAOOOOOO! Just enjoy getting to know the new girl... and see where it takes you.

Sleep tight at night and enjoy how attracting you are to the women... you are YOUNG. Experience life!

Thanks for the rating!;)