I have a girl friend who was with some other guy fr 2 years. She broke up with him after she met me and became very good friends wed me. She started loving me a lot at that time and had lost feelings for that other guy. Now after about 15 days of being together she is feeling depressed. She feels emptiness even though I give her all the love, care and attention. That other guy is with her in her institute and both see each other everyday. But now after she dumped him, that guy has stopped caring about her. She now misses being cared by her ex. I try everything to make her happy and am always there for her whenever she needs me. Still she feels that she is missing him a lot and that's the reason she has started avoiding me from a few days. I don't know what to do. I try everything to make her forget her past. But still she misses him and all the care that he showed to her. I try extremely hard to make her forget things and care for her by all the means I can . Still she is very depressed. I don't understand how to make her hap and help her move on. Please help me friends. I truly love this girl and I don't want to lose her. Please help.

To be honest, you can't "make her" do anything. She ended the relationship with her boyfriend because she thought she could replace him with you, but after a little bit, she realizes that she was wrong. Sooner or later, chances are, she's going to leave you and try to get back with the ex.

I bet she is already back with the EX!! Because his got some Kahunas between his legs.. Something you need to get bro!

If you want this girl then don't gie her so much let her chae you for a bit and see how that goes////

Harsh as this may sound, Its wrong to ever get involved between two people to begin with... Maybe it was her choice to leave her first boyfriend, but it sounds like it was a stupid move on both parts...

I think you should just back off and let her be.

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Originally Posted by love_unhappy

I truly love this girl and i dont want to lose her.

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Sadly,even after all you did for this girl,you've lost her :(

... The reason being,she has chosen her ex rather than you :( The best thing that you can do,[whether it is a mistake on her part,or not] is to allow her to go back to her ex.

Sad to say,what you actually had,was, unrequited love from her :(

I have to agree, as she thought by replacing the ex with you, things would be fine, and as you both have found out, its not.

Back off ,and let her grieve the loss of her relationship, as there is nothing else you can do.

Sorry, but you both have moved way to fast.

You were the rebound, she thought you could fix the emptiness inside and you couldn't and it's not your job too. She needs to heal from the break up, 2 years is a long time to jump into another relationship

He has history on his side, you don't. Even if she's not thinking of going back to him & hasn't, she is still trying to process the end of that relationship. It's better that she's doing that 15 days into your relationship than 15 months or yrs later. Let her have the time she needs to figure out what is best for her & whether that will be you or not.

From what you wrote, it sounds like she got carried away with the greener grass syndrome when she met you & now is reconsidering how smart that was for her to do, as she should. Would you like her not to do that & find yourself being the one dumped 2 yrs from now when someone else does what you did interfering like that with the same disloyal result.

You got her to leave her long term boyfriend, but right now it's not enough to make her stay with you the way you want. She needs to figure out how to deal with relationships more constructively & in a more loyal way before being a good partner. Better she does that without your heart being in play, but then picking women who aren't already attached would be your best strategy.