About four months ago my boyfriend and I decided to have sex. We tried, however his penis would not go all the way in. Only the tip of it went inside of me. The next day I began to bleed even though I had already came on my period already that month. So, am I still a virgin?

As soon as his penis entered you, no matter how little you are no longer a virgin. It has nothing to do with your period it is the sexual act.

I don't know; for me, the answer isn't as simple. I don't really believe a person is no longer a virgin if only the head of a penis has penetrated them. And from what it sounds like, the penetration was brief, and his penis didn't even fully penetrate your vagina. Virginity is actually biologically detected if the female's hymen is still intact, and if you bled, I personally can't be sure it was your hymen that was torn. If his penis wouldn't go all the way in, it sounds like penetration was difficult, and so the bleeding could've been due to general abrasion or ripping of your delicate vaginal walls, just right inside the entrance of your vagina. Such abrasion is not unusual, because the tissues are delicate. Danielnoahsmommy says any sex act renders you no longer a virgin. I disagree; the penis must go all the way into your vagina, far enough to tear the hymen. I don't know exactly where the hymen is located; I always got the impression it was somewhere mid-way between the vaginal entrance, and your cervix (where the vaginal canal ends). I will look that up. Here's a story for you: get ready, some of you might gasp, but don't judge me: when I was very young, adolescence, I spent time mostly with nobody else but a male cousin of mine. We were thick as thieves, and so when bodily "curiosity" and "exploration" came into the picture, we were each other's "test dummies". We attempted that "sex" thing we had heard about, (didn't know what we were doing,) and at that time, though the head of his penis did nestle between my labia, neither of us knew what "hole" we were supposed to put it into! (ridiculous, huh? ) Anyway, that was the end of that. Perhaps the last responder would consider that "loss of virginity," but I don't. Here's why: When I was 17, I was with my second boyfriend, who was actually the one I'd had sex with first. (My first boyfriend & I messed around a lot, but sex didn't happen b'c I was afraid of getting pregnant.) With boyfriend #2, I know my virginity was lost, b'c the penetration in the first couple minutes was accompanied with a searing & burning sensation. A strong one, and I could tell, my vagina was being fully penetrated for the first time. A towel had been placed beneath me initially (by him,) and a small amount of spotting had occurred on it. THAT is loss of virginity. Now here's the conclusion: if that bleeding you had the next day WAS your hymen, then you are not a virgin anymore. If it wasn't, you are a virgin. As I say that, though, the definition of virginity gets a little dicey for me. If somebody were to be penetrated with something other than a penis, for example, (say a couple is engaging in intimate play, and he penetrates her with something else like a vibrator... if they've not yet had sex, but the vibrator tears the hymen, I wouldn't conside that losing your virginity.) I think 2 things must happen: the hymen tears, AND it must be the result of penile penetration. I'm going to do a search online to find out where the hymen is...

There have been several discussions about what losing one's virginity entails. Officially, if there has been penile insertion, then virginity is lost. If not, then its intact.

Its possible for the hymen to be torn without losing virginity and vice versa. Nor is bleeding or lack thereof a true indicator.

However, I agree that this case is borderline. If there was only partial penetration, its possible that virginity was not lost.

But frankly, is that really important? You made the decision to engage in sexual intercourse (hopefully protected). Mentally, you were prepared to give up your virginity. So whether you are technically a virgin or not, at this point, is really immaterial In my opinion.

I will agree 110 percent with Scott on this, you wanted to, and you tried, and it shoulds like there was some penetration, so if he was going to be tried for "rape" that would be considered sex in court.