Two years ago I met a guy and we had an instant click. We grew closer and closer and eventually he broke up with his girlfriend (a decision he says he would have made whether he met me or not). We almost began dating but I chickened out. We have been bestest of friends ever since, and were both single for a lonnng time. He then got a girlfriend, who is leaving to take a GAP year at the end of this year. They have been together 9 months now. Neither of them wants to commit to a long distance relationship so it is ending. This guy and I plan to go take our own holiday together overseas for our school- uni break, we always tell each other we love each other.. always have. He is like a platonic boyfriend to me, but I think I truly do love him.. maybe! I feel like I do.. im myself around him and he is always there for me.. its so hard to describe! He knows absolutely everything about me and we enjoy our time together it amazing. We mean it when we say we love each other.. but I TRULY DO LOVE HIM! YET he is in a relationship with someone.
Should I tell him how I feel when she leaves? Would it be smart to go with him overseas when he has just broken off a relationship?
It would be the first relationship I have been in to in a long time.. I love him. But I don't want to be a rebound or get hurt either..
What if when she comes back after a year he leaves me for her? My friend keeps telling me to watch out.. . :confused:

Hmmm...

I often think about how different life would have been if I would have dated my best guy friend in high school... but I didn't even give it a shot!

So I am left with the wondering...

You still have a chance to "know"... go for it!

I would talk to him about it. I had a similar situation with one of my boyfriends years ago. We were really close, used to talk all the time about everything but one of us was always in a relationship. Eventually at one point we were both single and I talked to him about it and he was like "I had no idea you felt that way! Why didn't you ever say anything?" So we ended up going out. I was glad we finally did but it didn't end up working out. You never know though. It's worth a shot. I would rather have tried it and found out it didn't work than to always wonder "what if?"

I am wondering if your friend was not really looking for an excuse not to continue the relationship with this other girl. I mean, true love wouldn't care about distance in a relationship---although it does make it harder. I'm not so sure he would want to get back with her when/if she comes back in a year. Anything is possible I suppose, but it just doesn't sound like a real worry you should have.

I'm with ConfusedinAK, I'd say it is worth a shot----but you should be cautious about your hormones going into overdrive while taking the trip overseas.

Yeah I could imagine! He treats me like a girlfriend.. even though he has one. Which I must admit - there SHOULD BE A DIFFERENCE! Ha. We're not intimate though.. I wonder though whether I'm mistaking his actions for more.. u CAN like two people at once. Its so hard to tell what going on

Hahah yeah lots of people are mentioning hormones to me... I kind of do have a gut feeling that something will happen.

As for long distance... I'm in australia. She's going to england! He is very anti long distance, and she from the beginning said they would just have to enjoy the time they have. So yeah
Hopefully it goes OK.. counting down to the day she leaves just a tad..

Sounds like a bad choice cause he got on with another girl after leaving the first girlfriend instead of you.

I don't trust this guy.. even though I don't know him in real life...

Sounds weird~

No no.. U got it wrong. Kind of.. he left his girl. We grew close, and when dating came up I turned him down because.. well. I was too scared to risk the friendship. Just over a year later he finally went out with someone else, remarkably like me... EVEN with the same birthday. YES THAT IS VERY WEIRD I KNOW! I had already dated a few other guys in between.. but nothing more than datin. We had decided friends and friends it was.. but the connection has always been strong