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  • Sep 5, 2008, 01:16 AM
    friend209
    A night to remember, but will this relationship go anywhere?
    To start this off I am a college student, and met another student on myspace. We chatted for about two days when the conversation turned to the topic of going out.

    I agreed and the following day we were headed to the movie theaters to see the dark night. We meet and things seem to click. We held hands, cuddled a bit and when the movie was over, we made out. Twice.

    The next day we were back to talking online, and set anothere date up for a week from the first date.

    Well we both realized that we were done with classes, and decided to go hang out. I let him chose where we went and he picked a romantic outlook over the mountains to watch the sunset. We talked for 4 hours. We held hands, made out and just enjoyed each others company.

    We headed back to his car and went back to the parking lot where we had met so I could ride with him.

    Here is where things started to go downhill.

    He pulled up beside my car, and shut the car off. He looked at me, and I thnked him for taking me to such an amazing place.

    He leaned forward to give me a goodbye kiss.

    And the kiss never ended.

    Things were getting rather heated when he asked if we should move to the back seat, I said if you want to.

    He said its OK the front seats folded down.

    So anyway we start having sex, and after about 15 minutes I hear a tapping out the window. He looked at me and asked if I knew the person, ii said no, so we just kept going.

    A while later we were done, and just resting, when we noticed that same guy was standing at his car about 25 yards away, on a hill talking on his cell phone

    I jokingly wave at him, he waves back , gets in his car and drives off.

    I turn to look at my date, and I notice a car pulling into the lot.

    And another

    And another

    And 4 more

    And I turned around to look at my date and I say, what is going on?

    He was clueless, and we start pulling our clothes on pretty quick.

    Then we both notice that the people getting out of the cars, by this time they had us surrounded, were in uniform.

    The group of officers is standing around our car, laughing, and trying not to smile. They took our id's to see that we were both of legal age, and then ran our id's in their system for warrants.

    After receiving tips, advice, what not to do next time, and other lectures from EACH officer. They all left, laughing uncontrollably.

    To say the least our second date was over.

    My date said, well I think that about ends it then, I will talk to you later

    I get my things, get in my car, and we head out of the parking lot each going to our colleges.

    I know that it was inappropriate, but I don't think either of us thought we would extend that one kiss to the next level.

    My question is, do you think this kid is going to ever talk to me again, let alone go on another date.

    Could this relationship turn serious between us, even though we have already had sex?

    This was a heck of a night, let me tell you.
  • Sep 5, 2008, 03:34 AM
    tickle
    Its up to both of you, how you handle the next conversation will determine which way the wind blows.
  • Sep 5, 2008, 03:44 AM
    starbuck8
    Forgive me for having a bit of a grin on my face too. That must have been really embarrassing, but you have to admit, it's a funny story. I have to wonder who the original guy on the cell phone was. Some kind of do-gooder?

    Anyway, I think if when you talk to this guy again, you should treat it lightly. Don't make too much of it, and tell him it's at least something that neither of you will forget, considering the circumstances, and something the two of you will always have in common is that private story.

    I don't think this should hurt the friendship/relationship you had going. Both of you may be embarrassed, but use it to your advantage. It is something you both have in common, and it can be turned into a fun ::wink wink:: kind of thing.

    You may want to ask him if it bothers him, but after all, he was there too, so it wasn't your fault alone. He had a part in this also. I would maybe give him a call and tell him that you are sorry that your great night turned out the way it did, and maybe you could try starting the whole night over again, one night without the whole police dept. showing up with flashlights.

    I just wouldn't worry too much about it. :)
  • Sep 5, 2008, 06:21 AM
    excon
    Hello Friend:

    I got to ask. How were you able to keep going when a stranger was checking out the action??

    excon
  • Sep 5, 2008, 08:40 AM
    friend209
    I didn't know he was out there, or who it was, I guess we were just caught up in the heat of things, he told me that the guys left, lol

    It is quite funny now that I think about it, it is hilarious

    Friend
  • Sep 5, 2008, 09:23 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    Used to be a police officer in the area of GA State and Ga Tech, reminds me of 100 stories. But let me see you both heard taping on the window, and did not notice cars pulling into the parking lot, well at the taping you knew someone was watching and did not care?? So I guess you both do not mind being watched.?

    So why should it matter, a great story to tell the grandkids latter ( or maybe not)
  • Sep 5, 2008, 03:33 PM
    starbuck8
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by friend209
    I didnt know he was out there, or who it was, i guess we were just caught up in the heat of things, he told me that the guys left, lol

    It is quite funny now that i think about it, it is hilarious

    friend

    I'm glad you see the humour, because to be quite honest, I was LMAO just picturing it! :D
  • Sep 5, 2008, 07:10 PM
    friend209
    My date told me that they left and it was OK, I wasn't about to ask him to get off so I could see, lol.

    No I do mind being watched, that guy really scared me.

    He was the one woh called the cops,

    And no cars pulled in (that I am aware of, as I said it was hard to see, not much visibility in the front seat of the car with a person on top of you), apparently the parkinglot to a restruant was up the hill from the car, that's where the guy in question had seen us, I guess.


    My only prob now though is my date won't talk to me. I guess he got what he wanted... sigh

    Thanks everyone

    (I still think the whole thing was very funny, except this part of it, where he disassociated himself form me)
  • Sep 5, 2008, 07:18 PM
    starbuck8
    Well then count your blessings! Chalk it up to a good time and a funny story. If that's all the guy wanted then be happy you didn't waste anymore time with him then. He's just being a jerk, if that is the way he is acting now. You should feel lucky that you found out his true colors on the second date!
  • Sep 5, 2008, 07:45 PM
    friend209
    Thanks starbuck8.

    Its funny isn't it? That it still hurts, even though I guess you are right

    Thanks for putting things into a better perspective for me!
  • Sep 5, 2008, 07:54 PM
    starbuck8
    You're welcome. I don't know why this guy would not want to talk to you after this. He was there too! It wasn't like YOU called the cops or something. He sounds a little uptight to me.

    I'm sorry you got hurt, but seriously, wouldn't you have rather found out he was a jerk that just wanted to get laid now, rather than later? You got caught up in the moment, and stuff happened. You've found out how this guy handles sticky situations. Thank God it wasn't something more serious that the cops had to show up for. Who knows how he would've handled that!

    Good luck, and go find a guy that at least has a bit of a sense of humour, and doen't take everything so seriously. :)
  • Sep 5, 2008, 08:06 PM
    friend209
    Its funny because at the time he was playing it cool and I was freaking out, (see my uncle is an officer, and I was praying that he wasn't there, and I don't think he was)

    Looking back I kind of realize how quickly he moved once we started kissing, oh well, I guess life gives you things like that.lol

    I am really worried about our newspaper though, you see we have a police log, where they state names, the crime, etc in the daily newspaper. I hope we don't make the cut!!

    I don't really want to even think about it too much, that section is why half the people in town get a paper, just so that they can see who's been bad

    And my parents don't know about my little college side trips...
  • Sep 5, 2008, 08:28 PM
    starbuck8
    Ohhh nooooo! I sure hope that doesn't make the paper, or your Uncle didn't get wind of that! OMG! Eeeekkkk!

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