I broke up with my boyfriend 5 months ago, and although he kept constantly asking how I'm doing and if I'm seeing anyone... I find out he's been courting a co-worker who is engaged. He said there is nothing there but why bother. He sent her flowers to a house warming party --- I think that is just bezard. He denies any intentions but I found out the flowers cost him $80+ from 1800flowers.

Yesterday, I wanted to be with him and he agreed. Love it but the sad part is there was no hope involved. I ended up what he mentions here...

"You two break up--doesn't matter who does it. You immediately panic and begin chasing, begging, pleading, harrassing, phoning, e-mailing, IMing, stalking (okay not all of them, just pick whichever one you did). Most of us will likely do some things during this stage that will make you cringe when you think back on it, say after about 3 months."

And he expected it. I texted him, and emailed him but the final draw came to this email:

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I hope you are getting this all out of your system. I don’t think it’s healthy for us to continue communicating over the phone or via email. It’s stressing me out and it’s keeping you from moving on. Our relationship failed for many reasons and we were both equally responsible for it not working. Now it is time for both of us to let go and move on. This is not healthy. We are not getting back together and these back and forth conversations are not going to resolve anything.

I want you to find someone that can give you what you want, because I am not that person.

DG

My heart is very heart broken because he's taking it like a man. No emotions. He had many female friends that were coaching him and supporting his decision so it was easy for him.

For someone that once said he loved me deeply, it seems here he is tired and fed up and ready to move on.

Me, I lived denying there was a problem of neglect on his part and my overbearing need to be with him.

Please help me.. :confused:

Hi my name is missy and I'm a freshman yes I'm just a teen and yes you are probably saying what do I know about love?
Well let me tell you there is other of plenty guys out there maybe you weren't meant for him
There will be other guys and believe me that day will come for you just when it's right
I know that it's hard to get over the person you ;love because when your in love you would do anything for that person and yes it's hard to get over that emotion or feeling
Trust me your going to see better guys and you will be happier maybe you guys need space or maybe I might be wrong or maybe friends for a while until things get better
It's OK thousands of women are going through this and your one of them and its normal it doesn't feel like it's normal but you will see.
I hope that you feel better

Time to let go, and move on. Read the 4 stickies in this forum and browse through "The No Contact Calender". You will be amazed how many people are in your situation.