I've been with the same guy more than 20 years, we've dated on and off over that time, I've loved him forever. We finally got back together, and things are going really well, except, I got his initials tattooed on my chest, and he wants to know why. I can't make him understand I got the tattoo because I love him. He says he should have had a say, that being his girlfriend means he has part ownership of my body, I told him if we were married that might be true, but we're not, so it's not... AM I WRONG?

Hmm, for twenty years you been in an off and on again relationship with him. Maybe he got upset because he looks at the tattoo as a commitment with you. Luckily you only got his intials instead of his name. Your right he not own your body only you.

Nope, no one owns your body but yourself... Unless you sell it to science, then we have a problem

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Originally Posted by dellancaster

that being his girlfriend means he has part ownership of my body

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He's wrong and you are right. It's one thing to have an issue with your tattoo because he doesn't like tattoos. But to say he has an issue with it because he has part ownership of your body is not right.

You should see the look my wife of 30 years just gave me when I told her that her body belonged to me!! LOL, not good.

Just curious, why after 20 years you two aren't married?

In your opinion, tattoo is a symbol of love and commitment, but there are millions of people that don't see it this way. Many thinks it's stupid idea... imagine if you break up and want to marry someone else. In your case the truth is... having off and on relationship for 20 years can be interpreted that he does not want a commitment.

The tattoo is a red herring. You're on again/off again is heading towards "off again" and you're missing the signs.

After 20 years, it's time to stop the ride. By that, I mean you need to walk away for good this time when it goes "off again"... or you need to stop trying to figure him out and just live with what you've chosen - a non-committed-long-term-sexual-relationship-with-frequent-vacations-from-one-another.