Well il explain it as it is.

There is a girl I've known a fair time & I've always been in love with her & she really does confuse me.. She says she is in love with me as well.. but can't leave her boyfreind for the minute.. me & her where close friends & even had sex on occasion.. but I'd fell for her awhile back. Her smile, laugh, her personality.. I can't stand that she's with this other person as I am told he has slapped her a couple of times & makes me want to break his neck but.. that's what confuses me, why would she want to stay with him after that? She says she worried about his drug problem & he loves her to bits but she calls him a.. what do I do? I really do love her & she says she does me.. anything that I should do? & yes I know I'm nearly 17 but to you older guys.. don't be pricks & say its not love because it is.

Do you know that he has hit her? Or is this a rumor you heard? Domestic Violence is a SERIOUS issue. If she is 16 and being physically abused, tell an adult - your mother, her mother, a school counselor. It may seem that you are being a snitch (and she may get angry with you) but it could save her life.

Right now she needs a friend - not a new boyfriend. Be kind and supportive but stop having sex with her. You are making things worse for both of you. She is emotionally unavailable right now. She needs to clean up her life.

Appreciate the value of the relationship that you do have with her. And hopefully, down the road, it will grow into something more.

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Originally Posted by jjwoodhull

Do you know that he has hit her? Or is this a rumor you heard? Domestic Violence is a SERIOUS issue. If she is 16 and being physically abused, tell an adult - your mother, her mother, a school counselor. It may seem that you are being a snitch (and she may get angry with you) but it could save her life.

Right now she needs a friend - not a new boyfriend. Be kind and supportive but stop having sex with her. You are making things worse for both of you. She is emotionally unavailable right now. She needs to clean up her life.

Appreciate the value of the relationship that you do have with her. And hopefully, down the road, it will grow into something more.

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I know what you meen but for 1, we leave school at 16 & we don't have a school counciler in england, & for 2 I like to settle it the good old english way knock the outa the face, he might be 22 but that don't make a diffrence, I know he slapped her but he wouldn't go as far as to seriusly harm her, I know she's not looking for a new boyfreind, I just want to make her happy & make sure she remains happy & not hurt but as I said if I find he does it again I won't tell no one I'l find him & show him how to fight someone his own size as I'm 6.1 so is he I know it don't count for but I don't want to let a arsehole like him harm someone I love

The person who is seeing started threatening others for talking to her.. even her gay friend was threatened, no one fights him back yet he offered me for a fight, I told him where to fight me & he just says yeah watever & never shows, so.. me a 16 YO against a 22 YO & he to scared to fight me... he was using her windows live account. Now what kind of boyfreind does that & warns off her friends.. honestly this guy is starting to annoy me & I know the street he lives on. Should I kick the crap outa this guy because in the history of relation ships he would be the worst boyfreind

This is not a good situation, and she is not in a very healthy place, and honestly she needs help you may not be able to provide. The last thing she needs is another boyfriend, who wants to take care of her. Love, or not, it doesn't matter, as she has issues to deal with, and until she does, she will never be ready for a healthy relationship, no matter how bad you do.

Pay a visit to her parents and tell them what's happening on their daughter. Her father will take care of him and sue him fro abuse (if your girl will cooperate).